Hi lashes, Your body is going through the most dramatic part of the quit right now. Everything is exaggerated at first. Try to be as gentle as possible with your emotions - try to breathe deeply, to calm your body down... You'll probably need to aplologise less, if you do this! Deli [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 8/1/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 131 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,977 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] �393 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 10 [B]Hrs:[/B] 14 [B]Mins:[/B] 33 [B]Seconds:[/B] 14

Hi Lashes I am one of the clowns around here so your post is a little heavy for me. I undertsand everything you are saying life is a ***** sometimes but my advice is 'When life throws you lemons make lemonade' Please smile a little just for me? Phil xx [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 8/8/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 125 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 2,628 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] �656.25 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 25 [B]Hrs:[/B] 19 [B]Mins:[/B] 43 [B]Seconds:[/B] 42

Lashes, Withdrawals will pass... but unfortunately, the things that we say and do during withdrawals could have a long-lasting affect on our lives. Think long and hard before you say or do ANYTHING right now!!! When we're in withdrawals, we are not logical or level headed and the way we perceive things can be a little scewed. I'm not saying that everything is your fault here... I'm just saying that I think you need to cut some people some serious slack right now when you're going through withdrawals... otherwise, when the dust settles, they might not be there. Just think long and hard before you start a fight with Hubby. And hang in there... you're doing an awesome job! Congrats on your first day! :) Crave the Quit! Pam [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 10/28/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 408 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 10,220 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1685.04 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 29 [B]Hrs:[/B] 16 [B]Mins:[/B] 5 [B]Seconds:[/B] 25

Let us know if you need someone to hold him down while you beat the snot out of him! :8o: Tell him you are going to employ the SSC Mafia if he doesn't get off of his duff and help out! In all seriousness: This early in your quit you are acting on emotions. For a brief time common sense takes a leave of absence. Give it a few days and you might feel differently about him. If you still feel the same way, contact Phil---"the Godfather" :eg: [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 9/8/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 96 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 4,821 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $768 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 9 [B]Hrs:[/B] 22 [B]Mins:[/B] 6 [B]Seconds:[/B] 40

Oh lashes, I was exactly where you were months ago. I wanted to kill my hubby for eating a box of cereal. You can do it sweetie! Just give yourself "YOU" time and take care of your mental as well as your physical well-being. I had to step back and take a lot of me time in the beginning bcause all I did was yell at my kids and loved yelling at my hubby. Some reason I felt better. I fully understand where you are right now. I dont consider it a whining or nagging. EVERYONE needs to vent at one time in their quit. Guess some might forget where they were when they went through this. Hugs to you and hope things have gotten better. Kim [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 6/7/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 187 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 4,683 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $757.35 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 16 [B]Hrs:[/B] 12 [B]Mins:[/B] 16 [B]Seconds:[/B] 11

I am not nagging, I see why everyone thinks I am, but trust me, I am too busy to nag. These things can't wait... daughters school work and limits need to be addressed now not next week when hubby has a moment. He has to make time for us! If I didn't make it happen it wouldn't, he would leave it to me and then tell me what a crappy job I do. I guess I just am sick of trying get him to get involved in raising his daughter and am worn out with it. What happened in my day today would of happened whether I smoked or not today, [b]it's just that becuase I didn't smoke, I am here talking about it![/b] And that tells me I would of "smoked" away this day and its problems, only to do the same tomorrow. I do not know what to do to make this cycle stop. :mad: [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 12/9/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 2 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 63 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $11.1 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 0 [B]Hrs:[/B] 4 [B]Mins:[/B] 31 [B]Seconds:[/B] 9

Thanks everyone. I guess I wasn't clear when I said this kinda stuff is not unusal around here. My hubby can make me want to smoke like no other. I have learned the more I am around him when I quit, the more I fall. He just is the main cause of stress in my life. Sad but true. Do you know when I talked with him tonight about daughter and what we should do... I first had to explain what the routine is at the school for papers coming home and all that, I dunno, he just is clueless about this stuff and expects me to handle it all. Anyway... example of my hell life.... we talk, get a plan together, time limit on phone and no puter until grades improve where the top ones. Well when we get to the part of no puter... she cries and cries.. "but my friends, I will lose all my frineds" now if you were 13 and you were at a new school making new friends and trying to fit in, wouldn't you cry??? I mean I know how bad it stinks for her, but I know its neccesary. He hardly can look up something online, he doesn't like or care to know puters. He yells "why are you crying? Stop being a baby!!" OK so here is where I am KILL him! I am like, "hey let her be sad and cry if she wants, it is a big deal to her!" You see he doesn't even UNDERSTAND why a teen girl would cry when all this drama is going on in her life! ARG!!!!!!! I am at work 2nd shift, he gets home late and is tired from being up at 430am, so my daughter is freaking alone all darn night and he doesn't pay attention to what she is or isn't doing!! I need him to be a DAD!! I can't be there and at work!! I had to leave, I had to get outta that right then. I stayed calm and finished and told them I was going out. Well daughter wanted to go with me YIKES!! I just wanted to go cry and scream in the car! But again, I had to put that aside because she needed me then... I knew she didn't want to stay home, she was bummed that her Dad was so "mean." I let her some and we went to the store and all was ok. She said she would be ready to talk about it in a couple days. Gosh life is hard for her right now, doesn't he get that? How could he be sooo shut off from life and emotions??? Ok I am gonna go puke! The more I think about life, the more I find I am with a man who is everything I am not and everything I do not want at th

Day 1 and its not something I am thinking about, I am doing ok pushing the thoughts away. Dumb to even go there... so this is a rant that really I could have been on any day... it life right! I went out with daughter and picked out xmas tree. All he has to do put it in his truck and is it up! Why is it always I fight? I did let him do it without us last year to avoid the fight... tree was too small and had a hole in the top :gasp: Why O why did I marry a man who HATES xmas???? I love it and he hates it. My daughter is 13 and god forbid he just shuts up and does it for her... nope he rants and rants how he hates xmas such. He just did this when me and her decorated inside of the house. Joy for us, he doesnt help or do a thing, so why does he care? His total xams is put up tree. Be home xmas am(hunting of course), bear with his family and mine for coffee and desert for a couple hours. That is it, he doesn't have to .... decorate house ond tree, do cards, shop and bills, shop and bills, make sure EVERYONE is covered for presents, my family and his. Wrap all that. Do stockings. Be santa xmas eve (he is always asleep like any other night). food shop for family party... ect. HE HAS IT EASY!! I am really sick of this every year and now that our daughter is older and seeing his attitude, well why fake it? why bother? Why do I do this to myself? I am trying to keep xmas the same tradition for her. I do the same things every year. It is getting hard to pull of and I am resenting him for it. Also, I work 2nd shift and dear old dad is home on school nights, well that is when he gets home late from work. Our daughter is not getting things done. Its like she is on her own. He ccoks supper and they eat and then she gets to do whatever she wants. I am not here to lok after what she does and he says "she won't listen to me." If I hear that one more time I am gonna split my head off!!! You mean to tell me that a 13 girl has power over a 44 year old man that looks like hulk hogan???? are you serious??? I swear I feel like I am growing mans parts from trying to pick up where he wont be a man. Raise your damn kid, be involved in the EVERYDAY stuff not just the one thing you have in common thing!! ARGGGGGGGGG School grades are going down, she is sooo la la la all n

Thanks everyone. I do not know what I can do to help myself at this time. There is NO time for me right now. I HAVE work, I HAVE to be a mother today and tomorrow. I HAVE to pay the bills and clean and get xmas ready and all that. He won't do any of it, it needs to be done... I WILL DO IT. I am disappointed but in no way shocked that he once again, is making my life harder during this. And his not supporting me is making me see even more how he treats me like crap. But then again, he doesn't care if I smoke so why should he try to help me. Smoke or no smoke, my hubby is a @&& and I am sick of talking. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 12/9/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 2 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 73 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $11.1 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 0 [B]Hrs:[/B] 5 [B]Mins:[/B] 16 [B]Seconds:[/B] 57

Lashes, You have a lot of emotions going through you right now, so please know that this is normal. You need to take time for yourself when it can just be you. Communication is key, but will not help you if you are stressed and angry. Try relaxation techniques and writing down what you think may help out with you situation. This will help have everything on the table so everyone can be involved. You are going through a tough time and need support also. Take it day by day and minute by minute. Keep Strong, Josie _____________________ The SSC Support Team.