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18 years ago 0 2830 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Cuddles, I know this must be so frustrating for you! BUT, he did say that he's going to try to quit, right? Maybe this will be the time for him... AND you! Wouldn't that be great? It sounds like he is trying... at least a little. I know this must be hard on you... just keep focusing on YOUR quit... which seems to be going well. I hope that it is. Crave the Quit! Pam [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 10/28/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 193 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 4,846 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $797.09 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 14 [B]Hrs:[/B] 1 [B]Mins:[/B] 38 [B]Seconds:[/B] 41
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Cuddles, I want you to post that meter! It serves 3 purposes. #1 - if you don't post it, some of us will think that maybe you've slipped again. #2 - it helps those of us who are trying to help you know where you are at in your quit... it's hard to keep track of everyone on this site, and the advice that a lot of us give is different depending on where you are in your quit. That, and it helps us remember your anniversaries too! :) The third function is that it helps YOU see the progress you're making. I know right now, seeing a single diget can be frustrating, but we call all watch that meter grow together. And it WILL grow!!!!!!! One day at a time! This is a quit to be proud of Cuddles. Yes, I know how hard it can be coming back from a relapse, and frankly, there are times that I STILL lament my lost quit... but it's also something to motivate you too. Knowing what it feels like to have to start over is one of the things that has kept me from smoking anymore. Cuddles, here's what I want you to do. Download a meter onto your computer. It might not work to download the one from this site because it might interfer with your meter here... I downloaded silkquit. It's free. On that meter, put your old quit date and celebrate those milestones too! That has REALLY helped me immensely!! Cuddles, you can do this! Just don't ever give up on yourself! Crave the Quit! Butterfly [IMG]http://i27.photobucket.com/albums/c177/kissnflirt/butterfly3.gif[/IMG] [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 10/28/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 183 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 4,589 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $755.79 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 13 [B]Hrs:[/B] 7 [B]Mins:[/B] 42 [B]Seconds:[/B] 45
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Cuddles, I'm sure that living with a smoker is one of the hardest things you can do when you first quit! When I first quit, I did live with a smoker, but I was lucky that she smoked outside. I remember it not being easy, but she was just my roommate and not my spouse and she kept it outside. I can only imagine how hard it would be to be married to someone who smoked in front of you and didn't support your quit! I hope that he does actually quit when you leave for Maryland... that will be a great stress reducer for you if he can stick to it. But as you know, whether he does or doesn't, this quit is YOUR quit and you must own it. If you don't have computer access in Maryland, bring some posts with you. I'm sure you'll have a good time! Just stay focused on the task at hand and remember that you do NOT want to do this again! Crave the Quit! Pam [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 10/28/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 183 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 4,585 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $755.79 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 13 [B]Hrs:[/B] 7 [B]Mins:[/B] 32 [B]Seconds:[/B] 13
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Cuddles, I know what you're going through... believe me, I do! And I know how awful it is to think about the lost quit... and no matter how many times people tell you not to, that just isn't going to happen. I know. Believe me, I know! So, I'm not telling to you forget about it (although if I could do it myself, then I WOULD suggest you do it too), but I AM telling you to be proud of what you are doing now! So what, you lost a few months!!! NOW is what's important. I truly believe that I needed to screw up a few times before I realized that this was REALLY what I wanted... and so did you. So now, you've done that. You're back again because you KNOW that you want to quit... and you're doing it! Cheer up! Be proud of yourself! And you'd better reward yourself for 7 awesome days, you hear?!?!?!?! What was your 1 week reward? Crave the Quit! Pam [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 10/28/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 183 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 4,597 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $755.79 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 13 [B]Hrs:[/B] 8 [B]Mins:[/B] 18 [B]Seconds:[/B] 18
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Cuddles, Gosh girl, I am sorry to see you put yourself through this again. If I could reach through this screen, I would yank you over here with me. We could spend the day in the outside fresh air, and walk all over the place. (that would get me out also) May I should head down to the gym. You come along. You need to spend some time someplace of your choice that is soothing and relaxing to you. And while you are there you need to write up a list of all the things that you want to do in the next year, and then in 5 years. Let yourself dream, that is the first step to making plans. Picture yourself in those places and situations as a non-smoker, and picture the hubby as a wrinkled up old man who can barely breath on his own, can't walk anywhere with you and stinks of stale smoke all the time ( sort of like pig pen). You do not want to be at his side pushing his oxygen tank. Love him all you can, but concentrate on you and your needs. Your gonna do it... Cheryl [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 7/4/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 310 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 7,453 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $883.5 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 40 [B]Hrs:[/B] 14 [B]Mins:[/B] 40 [B]Seconds:[/B] 37
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Cuddles, don't use your husband's smoking as an excuse to start back up again. You can do it. It isn't easy but you can. I suggest that you NOT empty the ashtray. Just let it sit there. It's his. Don't take care of his business. Focus on your own business...your quit. If you can't stand the ashtray sitting there, then just move it outside. If he asks where it is, tell him. He'll get the point. Rusty :) [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 12/13/2004 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 504 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 14,137 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1764 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 69 [B]Hrs:[/B] 10 [B]Mins:[/B] 47 [B]Seconds:[/B] 23
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18 years ago 0 12049 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Cuddles, Protect your quit at all costs! Just because another individual doesn't want to quit, doesn't mean you have to start again. The weather is getting better, so either of you can go outside. This isn't going to be easy, take some time to step back and assess the situation. Perhaps Maryland will provide you with some relax time to think things through. Keep Strong, Josie _____________________ The SSC Support Team.

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