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18 years ago 0 1687 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Bluepanda, When we have no choice to go certain places, we have to trust ourselves and the work we have put into this quit. And I know that you have. So be so very proud of your quit of 21 days or 3 weeks,that is an awesome quit. So stay strong and fight for you quit. You know how it is done with all the tools here. This journer is not easy, but who said that we can't do it. I didn't and I know that YOU CAN DO THIS!!!! [color=Red]JUST KEEP SAYING I CAN DO THIS AND WHEN YOU SAY IT BELIEVE THAT YOU CAN!!![/color] Blessing sent your way, SUNSHINE [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 1/7/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 107 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,827 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $374.5 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 15 [B]Hrs:[/B] 11 [B]Mins:[/B] 2 [B]Seconds:[/B] 28
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18 years ago 0 2830 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Bluepanda, That's a tough situation. On one hand, your quit is VERY important, but on the other hand, so is your life-long friendship. I'm assuming that you don't live anywhere close to them and only get to see them on rare occasions and if you miss this opportunity, then you probably won't see them for a while. I know for me, that would make me resent my quit thinking that I can't do something because I quit smoking, and that's not healthy either. Only you know how strong you are in your quit. If you're really strong, I say go... but don't go without being prepared. Bring one or two inspirational posts with you in your purse or something that if you read them, would keep you from lighting up. And make sure you take your own vehicle so that you can leave when YOU want to if the cravings get too tough. And one more thing, limit the amount of alcohol you drink... drinking is one of the biggest quit killers and I'd hate to see that happen to you. Stay safe and have a great trip! Crave the Quit! Pam [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 10/28/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 178 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 4,458 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $735.14 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 12 [B]Hrs:[/B] 22 [B]Mins:[/B] 41 [B]Seconds:[/B] 33
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Bluepanda, If going out drinking and keeping your quit worries you, please read [url=http://www.stopsmokingcenter.net/support/viewmessages.aspx?topic=25754&forum=1]this post[/url] that I wrote shortly after throwing my quit away at the bar. Please be careful if you are going to be drinking at all. Even being in a bar, without drinking alcoholic beverages is a huge trigger for me... and drinking just makes it worse. That's not to say that you can't do it... you can! But I hope that you go into it prepared. Read that post. I hope it helps you. Crave the Quit! Butterfly [IMG]http://i27.photobucket.com/albums/c177/kissnflirt/butterfly3.gif[/IMG] [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 10/28/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 178 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 4,463 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $735.14 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 12 [B]Hrs:[/B] 22 [B]Mins:[/B] 56 [B]Seconds:[/B] 46
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Bluepanda, This is what I was afraid of! When we deny ourselves things that we enjoy because we have quit smoking, we tend to blame our quits for it... and when we do that, we tend to not be good to our quits or ourselves... we feel like we're being punished, when in fact, quitting is the greatest reward you can give yourself! Is there a compromise to be made? Perhaps hanging out with them in a non-smoking establishment? Would they go for something like that? Perhaps plan your night out as a reward for not smoking! If it's your reward for all of the hard work you've done, then you won't want to ruin it by smoking, right? I'm sure that whatever you do, you will make the right decision... I just don't want to see you get down on yourself and resent your quit. Please try not to do that. I'd also hate to see you miss out on this very special night with your lifelong friends that only happens 3-4 times a year! I know you'll make the right decision for you. Hang in there. Crave the Quit! Pam [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 10/28/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 179 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 4,475 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $739.27 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 12 [B]Hrs:[/B] 23 [B]Mins:[/B] 50 [B]Seconds:[/B] 40
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Hi and congratulations on your 21 days, that is awesome. I went away at the first of my quit and and worried myself sick that it would be too hard and I would cave, but I was fine, I was too busy to think about smoking even though others were smoking all around me. Print out some of your favorite posts to take with you so you can read them if you nead help. Take along a book that you can write in just as if you were posting and think of the answers you would get from people on here. If it gets really tough being out with your friends you will have to take yourself out of the situation to save your quit, that is whats important now, you and your health. Go for a walk to clear your head maybe that will help. Try not to worry too much before, wait and see how it goes, hopefully you will be fine. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 4/21/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 368 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 9,208 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $2760 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 48 [B]Hrs:[/B] 4 [B]Mins:[/B] 7 [B]Seconds:[/B] 1
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Boy, this site is wonderful. What great advice and caring you have gotten. Each thing I thought of telling you has been said, but I shall repeat a few. 1. Pretend we are with you. Take your favorite posts along and post in your notebook, particularly right before you go out with your friends. I was away putting my Mom in an Alzheimer's unit during my second week - my pretend posts (and answers!) made all the difference. 2. Pack and take a little survival bag with you. Not only might it help, it will be a visual reminder of the task you are accomplishing. It can include straws, a tiny pillow to punch, an old plate to throw, breath mints, a tooth brush, your posting notebook and posts, a NOPE sign, a written list of all of the reasons you are quitting, gum, chocolate, whatever. 2. Try to arrange some computer time in Texas, before you go. Someone must have a computer that you could use a couple of times while you are there. Explain why, and I am sure they would be willing. Or a library.... This connection is your lifeline. If you needed dialysis, you would not quit it just because you were on vacation. This site is your lifeline - treat it as such. 3. The time with your friends sounds oh so special. Since they still smoke, they will not be able to help but be very ambivalent about your quit...and they certainly may not want to hear too much about it. BUT - if they care about you, they should be willing to understand a request to not smoke with you right now. Assure them that you don't plan to be a righteous ex-smoker, but that right now you are very vulnerable and could really use their help. Apologize for being at day 21 rather than 61 at your reunion. That you would not expect them to change THEIR behavior unless it was really essential. 4. If this is a trigger, be sure not to drink. Lowering your inhibitions right now is not a good idea. At 21 days, you are still on a slippery slope. You need to protect your quit at ALL COSTS! This is your most valuable "possession" right now - treat it as such. Good luck. You are doing exactly what you need to do, and that is PREPARE. I feel certain you will succeed. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 4/15/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 375 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 9,3
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18 years ago 0 941 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
BluePanda - The week after I quit, we went to a party at a neighbors house. They smoke, and people were smoking all around. Before I went to the party I made the decision that I would not smoke, and no matter how bad it was getting to me, I wouldn't project that outward to the people around me. they smoke - I DON'T. You need to make sure before you go out you have your head in the right place. Write yourself a note to leave behind. On the note promise yourself you will not smoke while out with them and that you'll take the situation in stride. When the urge hits, read the note in your mind. I did that and it worked. You might also ask your friends to limit the smokes if they can. If not, I'm afraid it's up to you to own your quit. Good luck - STAY STRONG. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 3/7/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 48 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,692 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $408 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 7 [B]Hrs:[/B] 20 [B]Mins:[/B] 8 [B]Seconds:[/B] 0
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18 years ago 0 82 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hi Bluepanda, I smoked for 35 years and am on day 86. My husband and I belong to an organization and usually go there on Fridays. And as you can guess most everyone smokes. I made up my mind, I will not change my lifestyle just because I became a non smoker. I will still do everything I did just without the cigarette. We still go every week and it has gotten easier. I am very proud of being a non smoker. I still have those moments when I would like one, but the crave only last a few minutes and I try and distract myself, go to the bathroom whatever and then it is gone. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 1/28/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 86 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 2,849 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $430 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 11 [B]Hrs:[/B] 6 [B]Mins:[/B] 21 [B]Seconds:[/B] 30
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18 years ago 0 82 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hi Bluepanda, I smoked for 35 years and am on day 86. My husband and I belong to an organization and usually go there on Fridays. And as you can guess most everyone smokes. I made up my mind, I will not change my lifestyle just because I became a non smoker. I will still do everything I did just without the cigarette. We still go every week and it has gotten easier. I am very proud of being a non smoker. I still have those moments when I would like one, but the crave only last a few minutes and I try and distract myself, go to the bathroom whatever and then it is gone.
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18 years ago 0 12049 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Blue, You have received a lot of great advice, take what you need and keep it close. Perhaps suggesting a place to meet that will not allow smoking inside to lessen the temptation? You need to definitely have a coping mechanism at all times to help you through. You are there to enjoy the company of friends and not their smoking. Talk up your quit and let them know how good you feel. Don't preach but be proud! You can do this, Keep Strong, Josie _____________________ The SSC Support Team.

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