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14 years ago 0 11226 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hi Goofy,
 
Boy have I missed reading from you.  Thanks for keeping us in the loop.  I am sorry things are not going well for you now.  However I do like to hear that it sounds like you still have your strong, caring attitude in check!  
 
In regards to your friend I think if you have to be very frank with him it is a good idea.  In most cases people can pick up if you are uninterested in a topic.  If he didn't get the point when you mentioned about the news before he might be confused why you seem to shut down when you talk about current events.  What do you think would happen if you just said, "Can we not talk about current events?  Sorry but I find it depressing."  The more clear you are the better I think.  What do you think?
 
In regards to your partner it is hard to say if it is the depression or something that is founded.  I think it would be a challenge for any relationship to be apart for so long.  Keep communicating and being open.  
 
Look forward to hearing from you whenever you feel up to it,
 
14 years ago 0 121 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hi, Goofy.   It's good to hear from you again, even though you're going through a tough time.   I, too, have been off this site for quite a while struggling with the depression and now anxiety added to it.   I've made some major changes in my life and I question myself every day if it was the right thing to do.    I know I feel better when I come to this site and read posts written by those whom I consider "on-line friends."    I got on last week and didn't recognize one name!  
 
I'm sorry you're going through so many physical challenges right now in addition to the emotional ones.   The news of a new grandchild is exciting, though!    Congratulations.  
 
I'll look forward to your future posts and hope that things start to improve for you.
 
 
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Hello Goofy,
 
Thank you for writing, I wish that it was under better circumstances and that things were going better for you. As Samantha mentioned, we are here for you and we are here to support you whenever you are ready. I hope that things start to look up soon, work through the program and remember, you are not alone dear.
 
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14 years ago 0 2606 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hello Goofy,
 
Thank you for thinking to check in with us, it is always nice to hear news from you. Know that we are here for you in this difficult time. Reach out to us when you ar ready. Whenever you feel the need for our support, we will be here. Revisit specific sessions of the program to help you cope with certain issues in your life. Read through the forums and post when you feel able to do so.
 
 
 
 
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Well, What shall I say.  I'm fighting the depression more so than normal. I'm not at the beginning.  But I've backslid so to speak.  I've been reluctant to return and post.  I see the site listed in my favorites and I think I need to do that, I need to do that - for about a month now.  
Part of the issue, I think, is I'm feeling overwhelmed.  I got through the dizzy and I'm still recovering great.  Dr. said I'll continue to improve for up to a year (that's great news and a relief).  I've only had four minor dizzy spells since the procedures.  hurray!
I'm going to be a grandmother again.  That's totally awesome news.  hurray!
When I got through the procedures for my Meniere's he put me on a diuretic and potassium supplement.  I had a horrific "allergic" reaction to the potassium and can't take that.  I'm also on a <1500 mg per day salt, caffeine free, low cholesterol and heart healthy diett.  It's too many things on a label to read and weigh out!  If I sweat or get too hot, I lose potassium and haven't been able to do my landscaping, but am working 11 hours per week at my A/D treatment program job.  I've been having female issues - that's all I'll say about that but it's a big issue.  
My niece is getting married in December - she decided in August.  I'm throwing her a shower.  Of course, the wedding, don't forget U.S. Thanksgiving, and Christmas, and then I'm throwing my 99 year old grandmother her 100th bday party January 8th. My granddaughter's bday party and my daughter-in-law's birthday fall between now and the first of the year. I'm still in the midst of a horrid house as the repairs are still not done.  I'm not motivated to do things myself and I've tried to get some help and so far no luck.  I'm not cleaning house or taking care of me, the diet is overwhelming, the exercise, meditation, spirituality, tai chi has gone out the window.  I am still seeing my therapist and psychiatrist.  They've got me on even more pills.  I hate pills and now I have to have a box to keep up with them all.  I'm napping frequently.  Obviously I've not been coming here or using any of the stuff I learned here.  Motivation seems to be an issue.  My uncle thinks my grandmother needs assistance living independently but my son who keeps a check on her and I, who help with her as her POA, don't think so.  My uncle is still having his A/D issues (didn't think they'd miraculously disappear) but just another issue to deal with and boundaries to keep with that.  I've not gotten to  babysit like I want to because I just don't feel like it.  My son recognizes this and I go out there to visit her occasionally, but it's not the same.  He is coming to help me keep things straightened up (I'm back to that).  Geez, what happen to what little self-discipline I've had.  My BF is traveling 7 out of last 8 weeks and that means little interaction except via text and e-mail.  I'm having some insecurity and trust issues with him - is it the depression or is it "founded".  I don't know.  I've got a friend who is constantly coming over, doesn't pick up after self, want to talk current events (I find so so so very depressing).  I've tried to communicate this outright to him, saying "I don't listen to the news because it depresses me".  How much bolder can I get. This friend is a good friend and since my parents passed away he is step up to the plate, help me and my son, with issues that arise with things we know nothing about around the house.  I'm finding the dog more of a burden than a companion.  The crying has returned too. &

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