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14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1044

Jameyrae

I am also sorry to hear about the difficult time you are having irregardless of the time of year that is difficult. I'm hear to listen though I have no experience nor advice except to say that noone has the right to abuse someone else nor should you take it.

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 11213

Jameyae,

It is certainly not selfish to want to not be abused. In no way should you accept abusive treatment. Is there a possibility to look for other employment or talk to her family members in order to stop this treatment?

Have you tried to talk to your friends about this misunderstanding. Possibly writing them a email or calling them about this issue?

I am sorry you are going through a difficult time. We are always here to listen.

Ashley, Health Educator

Here to help :)

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 18

this is the first time in 10 years i am celebrating christmas. Now that i asm celebrating it. i think the lady i am caring for may be going into a nurisng home. If that's so, my best friend and i have no place to live. Pat (the lady i care for) is not doing well. i work 24/7 (the physical hours i don't work, i am on call). Pat is very verbally abusive, and i am really depressed because this caring for her is all a negitave cycle that starts over every morning. she has given up on life, and feel she should be in a nursing home, instead of running everyone into the ground. Is that selfish? i am one of those people she is running into the ground. the one day i get out to do my thing and hang out with friends, i loose 2 of them to a huge misunderstanding and now they weant to beat me up.

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 199

Pete:

No offense taken:

I too need my quiet and solitude. I was planning on camping in the desert during the holidays but the wind, rain and snow in the western part of the United states prevented me for leaving so I am kind of stuck here till the weather gets better. I will really be glad when the holidays are over and the weather warms up again so that I can leave and get out of the city.

Doing the best I can

Sid

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 3043

Sid:

No offence either way, I hope.

Different people have different reasons for finding the holiday period difficult, and I think we're polar opposites on this. I have a great need to be alone as much as possible, and Christmas with its obligations of family and celebration denies me this to a large extent. I need my usual daily/weekly routine, and holiday periods deprive me of that, and leave me rudderless and unsettled (one of my sons has Aspergers, and I often think that I have more than a trait of that too). I just want to get through it, and get back to normality again. But, as I said, I try not to be selfish and spoil it for anyone else.

For some, though, such as yourself, it appears to be the opposite - Christmas without family feels wrong and unsatisfying.

It takes all sorts, and I admire your positive attitude.

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 199

Sorry if I offended you Pete, I was just trying to find some cheer in the holidays. I too have a hard time being positive and getting through the holidays. My husband passed away 6 yrs ago my parents have both passed and the kid is off and grow up and living his own life with his family and has been for 15 yrs now. My partners parents are both gone also and his kids are also off and grow up living their lives also. We have each other to spend the holidays with, just the 2 of us now and getting through the holidays is very tough for us. It will never be the way it used to be. I am still going to try and look for some happiness and cheer in holidays and try to fight this depression. I am not willing to give up yet.

Sid

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 3043

Sorry, Sid, to come across as negative, but I think some of us here do find this a difficult season which is hard to be positive about.

But to answer the question - what do I do to make the holiday better? Well, I put on the best festive mood I can for my boys - I used to love Xmas as a kid and don't want to deprive them of that. I make sure to get plenty of time alone, though, to keep myself together. Long bracing winter walks. We don't have a big Christmas - no family or friends in the house, low key meals, no drink - so the pressure is fairly low. So I play the game so my mood doesn't spoil it, whilst inside wishing it was all over.

And that's as positive as I can be.

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1044

Take it one day at a time!

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 11213

Good Point Sid.

Let's not talk about negative holiday stories. Let's talk about positive holiday stories.

Members, et's get back to the question. What do you do to make the holiday better for others and yourself?

Ashley, Health Educator

Here to help :)

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 199

Gee Whiz !!!

That last post sure is a encouraging and supportive thought.

It is really getting depressing around here.

It is really starting to feel hopeless.

I am out of here for now

I am going to go work on or do something more positive like

work on the program or something else less negative and depressing

anything but this. This is going nowhere and not helping me get through the holidays..

Sid

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