Thanks for your post. You are correct, communication takes two. I think it is a problem on both our parts. A lot of hurt, misunderstandings that have festered, and some pride mixed together. Who is guilty of what and to what degree, I don't know, it probably a mixture of both for both of us. He says it's the way I say things and I find that I feel the same about his delivery. It's probably all those underlying emotions showing but I don't know how to stop it.