Ashepp3,
The roller-coaster ride to the relative merry-go-round I’m at now, makes it seem easier to “cope”, but I wonder if maybe I’m just hiding.
Ahsepp3, notice your mention of not being “engaged”? One thing I long for, and this forum is partly providing, is community or connection with grounded people, who can provide safe environments. If I visualize the most supportive, strongest people from any place in the world in a room with me...that would be the last room to be a locale for an attack.
I remember a frightening teacher I had in high school, who would verbally attack anyone randomly, as a standing threat if our class wasn’t compliant. That was the most frightening experience emotionally,similar to attacks, since like terrorism, since I could never know when or how or who will be struck.
He was promoted to a vice-principal later.
Ashley, do you have any tips on looking for these triggers, since from the research I’ve read quickly(eg.National Institute of Health), it seems pretty complicated...I know there was a good start on the stress forum you began.
Guy,
I worked with a fellow who’s father was dying. He used to say, to me, “the sun goes up, the sun goes down”.
He was so angry when as his dad died. He came back after a short week, resuming work, to my surprise. I on the other hand, have trouble letting go of a pencil.
I wouldn’t be so callous to make a simplistic statement to you, but I do notice that from the beginning of your post, to the end, there is a cycle from sadness to hope. Do you see it?
Also, there is an impending loss with your home versus a lot or property, so the CBT programme has something on grief, if you want to look at it, if you hadn’t already...
At the end of my life, I would like to be able to say,
“Negative thoughts came to me, I reframed them, I conquered them”.
Davit,
I find it hard to follow your reasoning. Do you have secondary sources for this advice, or is it your own theory?
Maybe I'll be able to follow a credentialized source, such as the National Institute of Health in the USA, or a major teaching university archive(I can access both)? This idea of "comfort zone" isn't realistic, since decionmaking cuts across situations, so I wonder where it comes from?
