I don't mind winter, just means snowboarding season is HERE! Otherwise, it gives me a reason to buy logs and light up the fireplace, warm the house, get those good vibrations going.
Nice! I've always wondered, but never really researched the topic. The way I used to "unlearn" things...and it comes to play now as well...is rather then trying to unlearn them, which is an impossible thing to do, skip the step where you're actively trying to forget it, and just change your current associations to the fear.
For instance, Faith had a thread recently where she told us how instead of thinking about how she didn't want to throw up, instead thinking of reasons why it's good to throw up. This works towards any fear, just think of reasons why the fear can be good (I don't mean fear itself, but rather the object/subject you fear). Though fear itself isn't such a bad thing as well...
If you don't like your situation, change it. If you can't change it, change your attitude about it. - Maya Angelou
Things aren't so bad over here, always working towards that better way. You could take this time to set up exposure therapies (such as trying to slow down and meditate), outings where you go where ever under the sky...heck, the possibilities only end where you let them.
Don't stop rewarding yourself for the little things. You're right, it's never too late to start!
Keep with it, dealing comes with facing your fears. I think your comfortable with the ghost, because it's easier then saying good-bye. Saying good-bye means letting go, which is a hard thing to do when it comes to those you value in your life. And each of us has our own value system, I won't put you down for yours if it's different then mine, I'm sure there will be things from my spectrum that seem senseless.
You ain't bothering us, so keep at it until you beat it Doc. Cheers!
I know exactly what your talking about writing thoughts down, I had the same. It's like if you write it down or speak about it, it will resurrect demons, so-to-speak, and make things harder. Truth be told, in my case I finally just gave in and told some (trusted) people, wrote down others...it's actually pretty relieving. Once you get it out, yea, you'll expect it to come around and may think of it a little bit extra. This is where the "challenge your thoughts" part of the therapy comes in. Challenging your thoughts is a pain at first, but very rewarding after. Part of the healing process involves things you don't want to do, or may not feel ready to do. Until you're willing to take this on, quite simply, nothing will change.
Good luck on the road ahead, we're here if you need us!
Sorry to hear about your son. I've had to deal with bullies and the
like throughout my life. Well, one in each place I've lived, and I've
moved every 2-4 years since I was born. This is just a personal point
of view, and how you deal is obviously your choice, but the way I
learned is through dealing with it on my own. There was always
something extra rewarding when I took it on myself (of course, at first
it was much scarier then later...but losing that fear is priceless).
My brother and I used to play tricks on the bullies, or just fought
them. I know it sounds dangerous, but without this, I would probably
have to rely on someone to handle my bullies in adulthood. Maybe teaching him ways to handle the situation will help? Well, either way, knowing you love him helps him out big time.
The only way I can think of to help your children, is to teach them. The more they can do on their own, the less you have to worry about.
You are at a point that I was at not too long ago, where PA's resurface and things begin a slow spiral back down. If you can't figure out what's causing them, then focus on dealing with them and overcoming them. There are a lot of things life throws your way that is unexplainable at the time, coping and dealing makes the outcome a bit brighter, and the lessons much stronger.
Glad you had a good day today...means your ability to overcome the PA's is getting much better! Congratulations on that!
At first, I kept the pen and paper handy so I could do thought challenging on the spot (keep it in your purse or pocket, one of those handy-dandy little notepads).
Now I don't use the pen and paper, and the thought challenging is automatic. The way I started to deal with challenging thoughts, is I write down what it is I'm thinking. Then under each, write a reason why it is, or isn't true. For instance, say I'm walking down the street, someone glances at me and it begins the attack. "They think I'm weird", my reply "Why would they think I'm weird, we never met, or talked or anything but passed each other".
You're doing it right. Whatever fearful thought you have, challenge it. It's a pain, but hey, no pain no gain!
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