Hi sunshine. I believe we need to interrupt the pattern of drinking. It's a habit - addiction we have become use to. We know we want to do it and physically even crave it depending how often you drink. I believe it's a whole rewiring of our brain to refocus. I know I have an addictive personality and I'm like the mouse at the reward tray at the end of the maze. We need to take a different path to a different reward to feel better. Alcohol is a depressant so the initial euphoria after the first few drinks goes away and the reality reward of what alcohol does sets in. Depression self loathing and obscured thoughts are the norm. Stop and interrupt the thought before you grab for a drink. Do anything to take your mind somewhere else.
Congrats to both of you for sharing your successes. Helps to know you can "live" and enjoy life without alcohol. Been sober for 5 1/2 weeks now. However, I did have two beers at a restaurant with dinner this past weekend with my wife. I totally didn't look at it as I broke my sobriety at all (looked at it as a success)- for one I didn't get drunk. I looked at it as actually making a responsible and conscious low risk choice and a "choice" to have two beers and stop. Which I did without wanting to drink more and get drunk. I know I will hear this is how it all starts starting slow and then right back where you were or worse.
What I don't hear on here is people who drank to much then cut back to a successful level where getting drunk wasn't an option if they drank any alcohol?
I learned recently that 70% of the people that drink alcohol only consume 10% of the liquor production- the responsible drinkers. Where as, the remaining 30% of the people consume the other 90% of alcohol.
I want to be in the 70% percentile or am I just kidding myself. I feel like right now I have the tools to do it but I am concerned old habits with creep back in if I don't stay "FULLY" aware of my feeling and actions.
Thoughts??
K
Hi ND congrats on making it through Super bowl sober! It's not easy when events come up that typically involve alcohol and how to handle. I remember a few years ago a couple my wife and I know -the husband showed up at Super bowl with Coke Zero and drank that all day. He was a regular heavy drinker before (and his whole family drinks- brothers, sisters, cousins, etc)... someone asked him to have a beer and said he quit. I recently saw him at a gathering and he was drinking. He didn't drink for almost 2 years...! I actually felt disappointed. And I was still drinking at the time and said to myself the damn pull of alcohol and pressure from his surroundings finally broke him. I was like man that sucks- knowing he had to stop - but then couldn't!
So, I can only imagine when immediate family members see us slip up or completely fall off the wagon. I bet your husband just wants you to "do it" and maybe doesn't understand the struggle fully.
-K
Hi Patches,
I've been sober for six weeks. And feel great!! Clear headed, exercising regularly, not getting moody (like when you are hungover)... wife said to me she likes the new me and saw a change in me.
I did have two beers when I went out for dinner once. But considered it a great victory that I didn't drink more or really want more.
Keep going!!!! K
HI Beni,
I've struggled my whole life with alcohol. Considered myself a heavy drinker, would go through cycles wouldn't drink much during the week but always on the weekend. Then it became drinking a few each nights during the week, then it became getting drunk a few times during the week and weekends. Then it just became I don't care when I drink or how much if it felt "good?" I just did it. I finally stopped... and hope it continues. I'm in my mid forties and feel like I've missed so much in my life because alcohol always seemed to steal someone from me. Whether it was my health or feeling healthy, relationship issues, law problems, days missed being "there" because of being hung over. You are taking the right path-- stop and take back your life. I'm so much happier! And your right be the good example instead of a bad example for your children. I can't tell you how much I regret what my daughter witnessed when I was drinking. Can't take it back...!
Keep going K
Haven't been posted in a bit... It's been 3 months and been successful in my view point of staying sober. I've had a few drinks on the weekend 3 max maybe once or twice tops in the past few weeks. However, I had a slip up went out to a restaurant with a friend and had some beers drank from 4 in the afternoon till midnight. Didn't get totally intoxicated but was probably drinking about 1 an hour... I know I was 8 or 9 beers. Felt bad the next day... and but didn't really think about drinking the next day like I use to.
I dunno just venting and feel ok. But wanted to hear about other slip ups and there handling?
Hi Me, I haven't posted in a while and you sound a lot like me. I'm 46 and have a similar cycle for most of my adult life, I've been trying to stop but it has been extremely difficult. I will have two or three beers a few times a weeks. Then on the weekends maybe 4,5,6.... I've been trying to control (cut back) and over the last four months really only was intoxicated twice, out with friends did me in. However, one of the nights I blacked out and don't remember the last hour I was out. Woke up embarrassed, pissed off and totally angry at myself. I'm tired too and always liked the 2/3 beer buzz but I KNOW its only a matter of time when I say F**K it and I just drink till I'm completely drunk...
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