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8 years ago 0 +0 / -0 347

Day 90

Julie,

Thank you, and congratulations to you as well! 180 days, wow, what a goal! I don't know about you but I am so glad that I did not drink after a month of being alcohol free. I had questioned Health Educator Ashley if after a month would my body be ready to "test." She stated that addition counselors suggest 3 months then re-evaluate. Tough words to hear at the time but I now understand. I am at 50+ days and sometimes desire a drink a bit too much to have reset myself completely.

Did you face major obstacles after your 50 day mark? Good luck with your goal!

Lynn

8 years ago 0 +0 / -0 347

Day 90

Julie,

Thank you for sharing some of your experiences, my path seems to be similar to yours in its ups, downs, and obstacles. I find some of the smallest things have made me smile and realize that what I am doing is for the best. The freeing feeling of not being tied to alcohol and the lack of anticipation for 5:00 (or whatever time I had said was OK to drink that day) is making this transition "doable" at this time. I find myself thinking that those 2 things will not keep me on this track but then have to remind myself that issue is for another day, enjoy today and this feeling of freedom.

I hope things are going well for you, have a great day and week!

Lynn

8 years ago 0 +0 / -0 347

A Question-

Julie,

I certainly don't have first hand knowledge to answer your question but did see a friend realize that AA was needed for her. This friend is an alcoholic and when I met her she was 6 years sober and had accomplished this feat on her own; no therapy, groups, etc. A few years after meeting her she realized that although she was sober she had not dealt with the issues that drove her to drink in the first place. This is when she decided that working the steps of AA was for her. She joined AA, not to remain sober but to deal with the issues. In her case, with or without AA I do not think she would have ever drank again. She has now worked the steps and in my opinion, a much better person. As Foxman stated, there are alcoholics and those that are heavy drinkers. I guess deep inside we know what we are, we know what type of hold alcohol has on us.

I hope this helps. Congratulations on your accomplishments so far, you have been an inspiration to me!

Lynn

8 years ago 0 +0 / -0 347

Moment of Clarity

Hello Virgo and welcome to the site. I am a few days past 75 alcohol free days and I hope you find the happiness that I and others have found being alcohol free. Reading your post and your reason for deciding to not drink sounds a lot like my reason. I realized that right now I have a choice whether to drink, that may not be true in the future. Once the days began to go by and I realized they were so much better without alcohol I began to change my thought of future moderation to possibly having a life without alcohol. I will evaluate where I am after 90 days but truly believe I will continue to be alcohol free.

After the first 30 days I have not had any major problems staying on my path, maybe it is because I know that I never want to go back to where I was and know that there is simply no other option. Right now I find comfort in knowing that I shouldn't drink, that it could lead me back to where I was. Will that be enough later? Who knows! I guess I will deal with that when/if it comes, for now I am enjoying the freedom.

Good luck to you Virgo!

8 years ago 0 +0 / -0 347

Needing a change

Hello WCH and welcome! We will all be behind you in your effort to reach 30 days. I had no intention of going 30 days when I began my journey but I found that it was actually easier to know that I was not going to drink for at least that period of time. No second guessing, no wondering how many drinks I should have, etc; I was not going to drink. It became a "freeing" feeling.

Good luck!

Lynn

8 years ago 0 +0 / -0 347

Needing a change

Rosa, welcome! Good for you for sticking with your one week goal. 1 week, 30 days, 90 days; they all start with the first day. Stay strong.

Good luck!

Lynn

8 years ago 0 +0 / -0 347

Newbie

Mothership16 and Newbie,

Keep working toward your goals and don't let set backs slow you down! Each time you decide to do something other than drink you have made another step in the right direction and have gained strength. All that strength will eventually show itself and you will break through all the negative feelings you have now. 3 months ago I felt the same way and wondered what the heck I was doing! It does get better, stay focused and hang in there!

Lynn

8 years ago 0 +0 / -0 347

Help!

Congratulations Thrive on overcoming your cravings and staying focused on what you want to accomplish. As you have experienced, it does get a little easier each day. Stay strong!

Lynn

8 years ago 0 +0 / -0 347

My body without alcohol

Ashley,

First of all, thank you for your advice early in my journey of becoming alcohol free. I am into 4 months of being alcohol free and at this time have no real desire to have a drink, this after not knowing if I could survive the first week!

Part of the reason I was a heavy daily drinker was to achieve a night's sleep (I realize now how wrong that idea was!). After a few weeks of being alcohol free sleep came very easily, almost too easily. It was no problem to get 8-10 hours of sleep every night. I would find myself struggling to keep my eyes open at night and have no choice but to head to bed. However, in the last few weeks I am averaging 7-8 hours a night. I am a 50 year old woman, a high school teacher, and am physically active. My question is, were those weeks and months of more sleep my body repairing myself? Is this possibly my new normal? I understand that at my age sleep comes and goes with most women but was wondering if some is alcohol related.

Thanks again for your advice!

Lynn

8 years ago 0 +0 / -0 347

Introduction

Aspen,

I am sorry to hear about your sister. I am sure the stress of the day was a trigger in itself, but congratulations in realizing it is a new day and getting back on track!

I am not qualified to answer your questions but can tell you that I had the same "negotiations" taking place in my head also. 4 + months ago I thought I was only going to stop for a week then try to moderate. I was so tired of thinking about drinking and suffering from the effects of drinking, I was a 6-8 drink a day drink for many years, I knew something had to change. I also knew I wanted to break the habit, routine, addiction (or whatever you want to call it) so after the first week decided I wanted to try for 2 weeks which turned into 3. Those weeks were rough but each day got a little better.

The human brain can rationalize just about anything, my certainly tried! The only thing that keep me on the right path was the intense desire to break the cycle. I thought after a month I would try to moderate but then found that to truly break the cycle I would need to give it 90 days, NOT something I wanted to hear! Oddly enough though, it became a comfort for me. There was no decision, I needed to wait 90 days then reassess. Needless to say, the 3 months came and went and at this time I am not sure if I will drink again. Do I miss it? Sometimes. I think about having a drink but then find myself asking, "Why?"

I am not sure if this helps you or not. Only you know your relationship with alcohol and if it is possible to just cut back. 90 days seems like a long time but why not giving it a try? When it is over you will have a very clear picture of your relationship with alcohol and if it is something that you really want in your life.

Good luck to you, tomorrow can be Day 2!

Lynn

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