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13 years ago 0 57 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Messed up again

It’s incredible what we can learn from each other, we all have the same goal but I’m now starting to realise that we have an extremely individualistic approach to the way we go about it. I’ve got so much to think about it, it didn’t occur to me that I still had phases to go through (how naive is that), I thought that automatically reaching 6 – 7 months would mean puffff, away goes the craving, can’t tell you how disillusioned I am to find it’s not the case!

Yes to all the comments: smoking won’t change the situation...any situation regardless of the whys and why not’s: battle talk and arms : suggesting that they would fight -- and win -- on my behalf (can’t tell you how many times I thought these were the magic potions and now I can see they’re not) : Tiana mentioned weariness and tiring, I am very sure about one thing, I must not give in to this quit this time because I’m convinced that this is my last chance to stop, I believe this because I know that if I give in this time then I won’t have the strength or the inclination to try again.

I’m off to re-read my books, my diary and to calm myself down.

Can’t thank you all enough, 2 days, 51 days, 211 days and over 1000 days.....way to go!
WE CAN DO THIS.
13 years ago 0 57 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Messed up again

Oh eya , you caved after 3 whole years, that has filled me with despair. I know that in my own personal case that I can never have even one puff, I'm a total nicotine addict and one puff is enough to get me started, but 3 years.....you must be kicking yourself. Just goes to show that we can never let our guard down, NOPE NOPE NOPE forever!! (not one puff ever)
sending strong loving support thoughts to you all!!
Lula
13 years ago 0 57 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Messed up again

ohhhhh it's been a rocky few days but here I am.....still quit! I found myself "looking" for excuses ands boy there were lots of them, (as Eya says) ...argument with husband, my foot hurts (after the op), it's raining  lol etc. isn't it  pathetic? I've got through this week and I'm okay....not smoking and okay.
Lula
13 years ago 0 57 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Tired of hating myself

Cry like a baby, and then wipe your eyes and get on with your life...you'll be so thankful you did...honest!!! I remember those feelings so well. You'll have so much support here....keep coming back, we are here for you.
13 years ago 0 57 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Messed up again

Just knowing you're all there....a mail away.....is all the help I need guys. Honestly I'm sick of moaning about my quit but sometimes I just need to let it all out. I'm so looking forward to the day when I can be free and when I can actually sit down and write a coherent help mail to others.
Thankkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkk you!!
sending lots of hugs and support!
Lula
13 years ago 0 57 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Messed up again

Hey there been a while huh! Well today I'm celebrating 8 months smoke free, who would have believed it when I started this journey a lifetime ago! (seems like it!)
 
I haven't been around for a while becauses I decided to take a step back, I found that my life was being dominated by not smoking and I was becoming totally obesessed so I took the decision to not  think about smoking, to get on with my life and if it came up then to brush it aside and continue. The result is that I'm nice and calm, a thought comes and then it goes.....see.. no more no less! I think it's just another  phase to go through, something that we have to endure. I remember practising letting the feeling come and dealing with it through time, water and various othere methods that worked for me, now I'm through with letting the feeling come, as soon as it raises it's ugly head I send it off into space and get on with what I'm doing. Up to now it's working....wonder what the next phase will be!
keep strong everyone, lots of hugs and lots more NOPE!!!
Lula
 
12 years ago 0 57 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Messed up again

well hello everyone!!! hands up those who thought I'd gone back to smoking :-))) I'm still not smoking!!! it's now 11 months today, I just can't believe it! 
I'm much better, I don't think about smoking very much, now and again but nothing in comparison to the first couple of weeks, and then the first couple of months and now almost never! Actually a strange thing happened a month ago, I was watching a film and the person started to smoke, the camera was full on her mouth as she inhaled and exhaled and do you know I suddenly got this choking feeling and I honestly felt that I couldn't breathe, now I find that I can bring back that feeling of not being able to breathe at will and if I get the odd crave this feeling immediately takes away the crave. Has this happened to anyone else?
I'm coming up for my year anniversary and it's going to be a time of reflection and a time of giving thanks, thanks to all who have put up with me and my rantings!! here I am, if I can do it then you can too, one day, just one day without smoking leads to the next day and the next, before you know it - it's been a week!  
lots of love and hugs....especially to my Peteg!
Lula