Hi there, don't worry about the slip, forget it and move on...on to getting through one day at a time and not smoking. I remember I had to take it one hour at a time because a day sounded too much and impossible, honestly it's not. Remember why you want to give up and learn from all the slips you had in the past. If a slip occured because you were a little down be sure to do things that keep you cheerful etc. Always have a plan ready to put into action. That's one of the first things I learned I guess, have a plan and go with it when necessary, regardless of who is around at the time or what they think. I had to go over this again during the Xmas holidays, my house is now no-smoking, that's one of my escape plans!!! Easy on yourself and have a wonderful smoke free day!
Been so busy lately that I haven't had to do anything, not even to post!! Strong as ever, here I am still not smoking!!! Getting Xmas out of the way has helped too, now that the festivities are over life is getting back into it's routine and strangely enough I'm starting to feel that part of that routine is not to smoke and I feel comfortable with this for the very first time. It does get easier doesn't it, I didn't believe that when people were telling me this early on in my quit but they're right...it does get easier. I guess the thing is not to get complacent, best to be on guard even if it's deep down in subconscious. Another week over!
Hi Traback, keeping a diary is a great way to know yourself with regards to smoking, it'll help you in those weak moments and also when you conveniently "forget" why you wanted to stop (that's the nicodemon in your head playing with your thoughts). It's helpful to jot down how you feel when you start your quit too because when things start to subside a little you can look back and think"thank goodness I never have to go through that again", and you won't have to because you'll be a non-smoker!!! Good luck, I'll be thinking about you.
Hi all, I haven't posted for a few weeks, hmmm things are changing a bit and I don't know if this is normal or not. I've started to not-obsess!! not obsess with stopping smoking or staying stopped!! it's really odd, over the last 5 months or so my priority has been to stop and to stay stopped, now I find myself just getting on with my life and that "stopping smoking" has kind of taken a back seat to my normal everyday life. I honestly don't think about anything to do with smoking much. Does any of this make sense to anyone? I find it just so different from say a month ago............anyone go through the same?
to Nissala, Eya and Shevie, thanks so much for taking the time to reply, and it's so good to know that what I'm feeling is quite normal.
I'm coming up to my 6 months anniversary, incredible to think that I've come this far, I've never ever reached this! One of my friends accused me of cheating the other day and sneaking a sly ciggie because she can't believe I'm still not smoking!! I have to say that I got slightly annoyed at being accused of cheating but thinking about it I guess it's just a smokers panic, she wants to stop but is convinced it's impossible. When she asks me what's different about this quit in comparison to the others, after much thought, I couldn't say it was one concrete thing, it's a mix of different things. I don't feel my need to stop was any different to other times but I do think working through the SS programme helped me see a lot of things in perspective and also the horrible cold reality of what I was doing to my body and mind. I knew this before of course (all smokers do) it's just that seeing it in black and white and being really encouraged to see smoking for what it is somehow clicked something in my brain. I'm not saying I didn't suffer because I did, but the determination was different. I do so want to stay stopped and every morning I get up with the mantra of "I won't smoke today, tomorrow I don't know but I won't smoke today". I learnt this from one of my books, one hour, one day and one week at a time, slowly does it.
Happy Valentines to all of the non- ex- smokers in the world!!
hey everyone! there are some great people on this site and from what I can see the advice is flowing! It's such a nice feeling to be able to come here and read what's happening. It's great to see the advice and to see some things that I can think "hmmm I remember that"! Next Friday it'll be my 6 months quit, I can't wait, going for one big treat, off to an urban spa for the morning!! water and massages here I come! That's my big reward for getting this far. NOPE....for ever and ever!!
Lula
Now if somone could tell me how to get rid of the 5 kilos I've put on........!
Well well....this is what happens when you get smug....something comes along and pulls you right up! There was I feeling good and then 2 weeks ago I was told I had to have an operation on my foot, okay no big deal, but I can't believe that I suddenly started to think about going back to smoking! It was like I suddenly had an excuse, the worry, the nerves etc! It was like the addict in my mind had returned full time and I've been waging an ongoing battle since then not to smoke. I had the op 3 days ago and I'm fine but I even found myself looking at the lowest tar/nicotine cigs we can buy here in Madrid. I feel like I'm back to the beginning again, I hate feeling like this.
Hi Roxie, thanks for taking the time to reply. I'm not so bad but I do feel a little down, one day I'm okay and not thinking about smoking and then I get one of my obsessive days and it's all I think about.
You're right, the battle is different for everyone but I was doing so well, so well that I thought I had the battle won and that yes I'd get to the top of the mountain... well guess what.........I just don't see a "top" at the moment. The mountain is still there but now there's no summit (was there ever one?) and it just seems like too much trouble to go on fighting. I feel like I'm just back to square 1..like on the first day of my quit...talking to myself and trying not to think about it. How can that be after nearly 7 months?
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