Sparkwins, I cannot believe how strong you are. You are through the worst two weeks and you have done that living with a smoker who smokes around you! Don't stop now - you must be a very strong-willed individual and you should take full advantage of that deep pit of willpower you possess.
I could never have stopped smoking unless my partner did too. I had always thought I would stop "one day" but that date kept moving back and back as I got older. Then my husband needed a heart bypass operation (he smoked)and I spent the week after his operation visiting with him in hospital. Out of the 15 people on the ward, 14 were smokers or ex-smokers. At the ripe old age of 41, here's what I FINALLY realised ... smoking is really, really, really, really bad for your heart! The ads on tv don't sink in, the warnings don't make you feel guilty enough to stop but seeing 14 people with "zips" in their chests really put a chill down my spine. Neither of us has smoked since and I know I will never smoke again. Believe me, after 25 years of smoking, there have been "moments" and I'm not saying it's easy, but it is definitely worth it. And, you know, it gets easier.
I wouldn't be giving your wife any ultimatums, your emotions will be all over the place at the moment and it will all end in tears. Just HANG IN THERE for your own quit! It gets so much better with each day. Your wife may take inspiration from you in the future, or she may not - that is her life, her choice. Don't pressure her to quit but if she does choose to do so, then be supportive of her. In the meantime, reward yourself for your hard work (give yourself lots of rewards, your brain needs them), ask her to smoke away from you if she can and stay strong.
I am going to reward myself right now with a nice glass of wine! (um, it's just after 5.00pm Friday here, in case anyone thinks I'm hauling back booze in the morning ... lol).
Kia kaha Sparkwins
[B]My Milage:[/B]
[B]My Quit Date: [/B]9/23/2007
[B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 39
[B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 975
[B]Amount Saved:[/B] $468.00
[B]Life Gained:[/B]
[B]Days:[/B] 3 [B]Hrs:[/B] 16 [B]Mins:[/B] 46 [B]Seconds:[/B] 33