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Does Planning Cause Your Anxiety?


11 years ago 0 4027 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Ashley,
 

I suppose I’ve been successful with incremental approached to life. I do things one step at a time, but fall over my feet when trying to do too many things. For gardening, I mapped my garden out. At the same time, I get scared about the great amount of space to tackle, but am helped by a couple of workshops, where I compare notes with more experienced gardeners. What I’m finding is that I’m not alone.

Thinking ahead scares  me because it seems overwhelming, but it’s like that joke about “how do you eat an elephant”.   The answer for any overwhelming project is to tackle it a bit at a time.

I’d like to listen more to the wisdom around me, similar to the child listening to the rabbi’s heart. Listening to the community around me, is like listening to the pulse of the world, since we’re all connected. I might not agree with some of it, but I’ll bet it will be energizing.

I feel more open. And I’m tired of speaking. My old self used to listen anyway.
 
Davit,
This week I was shown how to use a tree diagram, since I'm so visual to simplify my indecisiveness.  I tend to use perfectionism and it undermines my plans.  In terms of gardening, I really didn't consider a gardener, since I could have.  But I'm kind of diving in.  It's amazing how much I can get done, a bit at a time, too.
 
I'm never "sure" I'm doing the right thing, though.  I never really feel commited to things, but that's my perfectionism.
 
One mentor used to say "not to decide is to decide", so once I start doing something, the procrastination is challenged,isn't it?
11 years ago 0 6252 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
hugs

Could it be that the garden plan is not that big of a load but the thoughts of other associated plans is? Could there be a bit of perfectionism causing this overload? Can you separate planning a garden from other plans, failed or not and just accept what you get? A good part of what is relaxing about gardening is fixing the mistakes. That in itself can be like yoga. Focussing on one point to the exclusion of all else.
Good luck with the garden.

Davit.
11 years ago 0 11210 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hi Hugs,
 
Thank you for sharing this story with us. How have you applied the lessons of this story to your garden planning?
 


Ashley, Health Educator
11 years ago 0 4027 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
I'm planning a garden, but wonder if our lives today, full of planning, scheduling and mental "busyness" require too much "brain" activity, so we have to find a balance as with yoga to focus on breathing, silence, etc
 
Although I don't practise Judaism, I found this wonderful story of a distracted child who focused on the heartbeat instead of the distractions of the world, and was calmed by this.  The story follows.
 

A Jewish boy, the only son of his devout parents, was a most biddable child, with one exception! He resisted learning the Torah. To his parents, nothing could have been more distressing.

The Chief Rabbi was to visit their Synagogue. They decided to ask him to visit their home. He did, and after the meal the parents expressed to the Rabbi their concern about their son.
The Rabbi asked permission to place his arms around the boy. The parents agreed, moving to one side. They watched and waited, expecting to hear some word of advice from the Rabbi to the boy. But the only word they heard was silence as they watched their son rest close to the Rabbi’s heart.
The next day the boy began to study the Torah. His passion for God’s word grew. Years later he became a wise and loving Rabbi. Many asked him whence his knowledge came. He simply said, ‘I put my ear close to the Chief Rabbi’s heart and in that moment I heard the heartbeat of God.’
In the Gospel of John the ‘beloved disciple’ has his ear on Jesus’ heart. It is a privileged place. But I too am a beloved disciple, so I can do likewise. Only in silence can I hear the Lord’s heartbeat.
Lord, enrich my days with moments of silence, in which I simply

 
 

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