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Hi Vincenza & Ashley,
The way I dealt with it was by avoiding him, and doing the best I could to maintain my poise, during a difficult time when I was depleted.
 
Unfortunately this colleague had no work ethic, was close to the manager, and I was buried in work while he just sat around for a year and a half.
 
I was told not to expect anything from him, what that means.  I'm resentful now, but clear about how I'd deal with this "bump on log" now.
 
I''d confront him or his supervisor, with accountability.  When you're depleted though, it''s harder to reason.
 
Both of these two were useless, but I wish to stop changing this part of the world,since Oprah is retired and can have that job
 
It's so hard to let go, though
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Hi Vincenza,
Are you asking me for more detail, or are you asking others for their experiences
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It was difficult enough to deal with the dynamics in a classroom, after six months of being inside without going out.
 
A simple night course has some guy who looks like a dolt I worked with, who made life miserable.  I can't see myself going back for the last class, since the intensity of the class is too much already.   There's no loss, except the content, and I can be proud of going for 7 of 8 classes, and it was just for interest.
 
The light didn't go on, until this weekend.
 
I wonder if anyone has dealt with a situation where they have a "reaction" to someone who is associated with something traumatic, and just has to take a different path

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