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13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1665

All sounds good to me D. Sounds like you know what you want now and are willing to go get it. This is a step forward too. Nevermind what others are thinking of you right now, you have to think about how you are going to do this and keep going forward without the negative comments pulling or holding you back.

Now that you know more about CBT ask the therapist what he can do to help you - is there a session you would particularly like to go over with him?

Sunny

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 542

Yes Sunny a female Doctor would probably be more helpful I am going to start looking, I see a nurse-practioner who is female but my primary and therapist are male. I wish I had a more helpful therapist and perhaps this would of not lasted so long and got so severe. I had to go on the insurance plan and sometimes the best are not on it, I wish he had stepped it up earlier, nine months is a long time for no results, but I cannot put the blame entirely on him, it takes two to work together I guess, but I do think he should of seen how bad I was and helped more, when I started seeing him I was a total mess, maybe I should not call myself that but it was bad, I am still not great but a little better I just wish if he felt he could not help me he should of told me, its mad my husband mad and left me confused and bewildered, like maybe it was my fault, he told me he had other panic/depression patients that were getting better, I guess every case is different, I guess there is no magic doctor or pill or potion, I have to do most of the work and get well, I just wish I had a little help here, this site does help at least I do not feel so alone, I picked two wrong therapists and I really dont want to make a third mistake, its too depressing.

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1665

Hi Deb: Vincenza had a good suggestion I think. A female doctor who can relate to female problems. I've had a female doctor for almost 20 yrs. I really like her and yes, I do feel comfortable with a woman doctor. Good luck in your search. You are moving forward even if you feel it is very slow. Keep thinking positive. Get up thinking this is a new day with a new beginning and new opportunities. Nevermind what happened in the past, it's gone. What can you do today to start feeling good? That's what I do, try and put a positive spin on things. Hard sometimes, but even a teeny tiny bit of positive in all the problems means the fear is not 100% winning and there is hope. Yea, some days are tiring as heck.

I'm in the middle of selling my house. Stress for sure, keeping it clean all the time too - lol. The other night I went to bed and looked at my nicely made up bed linens and didn't want to ruffle it. Now that was funny.

Little by little, day by day, hope you are still studying CBT sessions.

Sunny

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 4027

This journey, before I forget, is difficult if one doesn't have supportive people, employers and time and fortune. It's a rocky road but compassion goes a long way to help.

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 4027

I've been lucky for most of my life, but had one clown who should be locked up in a Mexican jail for eternity, but he seems to have too many people "charmed".

I think different styles can work with many people, but there has to willingness and, an "aptitude" for learning which many people dismiss. I didn't understand the aptitude part, but many psych. issues have a learning component, aside from those that need physical/medical interventions such as diet and medical dosages of meds.

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 6252

God bless America.

If you have enough money you can buy anything. You can buy the best medical care in the world even if you have to cross borders to get it. You can also buy the worst. Money is the factor not creditability. You can buy a therapist that will hold your hand when you need it and kick your butt when you need it and do both at the same time. Or you can buy one that will smile and tell you what you want to hear and you will leave their office with a smile that doesn't make it out of the parking lot. Here therapists are free but they have to be qualified to work for medicare. Enough legit complaints and they are out.

I have probably the best therapist a person could have. And I have the bruises on my butt to show for it. But I'm probably as cured as a person gets and I know more about how this condition works and what to watch out for. The chances of it coming back are so slim they are impossible. I never ever left her office mad although I did enter it that way many a time. I never ever left without an explanation why I was being pushed in a direction I did not want to go.

She describes herself as a b........ch but I have seen her help far beyond what the job calls for.

And when I needed it she had me committed. She did convince me to go voluntarily, but there really was no option.

Thank God she likes it here because she could make a lot more money south of the border.

I hope for those of you that have a choice that you hire a tough no nonsense therapist and not one that lets you lead.

There is a fellow here that people go to unofficially, they like him, he is a good hand holder but none of them have ever been cured. He doesn't teach CBT either. But he is good with relaxation skills. For some that is enough. Less work but less cure.

Davit.

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 542

Thank you Vincenzia,

Sometimes I feel like I am venting too much! You had asked me what I was looking for in a Doctor or therapist, I guess in a doctor someone who will understand just because I am overweight [but I have lost quite a bit lately due to no appetite} that that is not the reason for all my problems. When I first got this disorder several years ago the first time I was very thin so I do not think weight has anything to do with it, perhaps the fatigue but not to this extent, its frustrating to wait almost 2 hours in the waiting room and have ten minutes with the Doctor. I am looking currently for a female therapist, I feel I would be more comfortable with a female discussing womans issues. I think you are correct! I need a "fresh" view perhaps changing Doctors would help and I am looking for a female therapist, I think you hit the nail on the head. Thank you this is probably the course too go.

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1853

Hi Debora,

You are taking a step in the right direction by using this forum as a resource to express how you are feeling and to vent your frustrations. I wrote to you in another thread that I am happy to know there is that other side of you that is hopeful and driven to get better - in the time you need.

Is there a different doctor or health care practitioner you can see? Someone that can listen to your health concerns and offer a 'fresh' perspective? What are you looking for in a Doctor or therapist?

Vincenza, Health Educator

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 542

I think a lot of my problem is that I have lost faith in Doctors and therapists, they have not been helpful and at times they have been hurtful too me, they do not seem to care that I feel so bad so sad and so tired its like they do not know what to say and that is scary in itself, when you go to a professional and they have no answers for you on how you can get well and recover.

I thought after two weeks of NOT panicking or crying everyday I would feel at least a little stronger and have a little more energy, I hope did not "trade panic for depression" does that make sense" I try so hard to think positive, but there is so much negativity around me, I do not even read the paper or watch the news anymore and I hardly speak to anyone because its all so down and negative, people think I should of been better by now, but without the proper help how can that be? My husband has broke down physcially and I have emotionally and its hard we have a son we must be strong for. All I want to do is sleep and sleep, and I know thats just an escape and or depression, I am afraid to go to the Doctor now and I know deep in my heart I will wait two hours for a ten minute appt and he has no answers and that makes me feel very helpless.

I so want to go out again to the libary, get my hair done, get these doctors appts tests I need, go to dinner etc....but I look and feel so bad I stay home so noone will see me, then I start to think "there must be something wrong with me" to feel so tired sick and bad, I am not ninety years old but I feel it, I just so wish to have my energy back to live life again.

I will keep going through, what other option is there? and hope and pray in time I will feel better, my son's birthday is coming up and the holidays and I want to live to see them and feel good again!

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