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12 years ago 0 6252 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hi hugs.

First a little background. My nightmares were all Claustrophobic "what ifs." All negative possibilities that had a 1% chance of ever having happened. But you know how association can take a disaster you see on TV. (an earthquake buries some people sort of thing) (a child falls down a well)
In many of my jobs I have had to squeeze into tight spaces and it never bothered me at the time. But just like negative thoughts in the triangle you can choose how you see past experiences. (my anxiety level is going up thinking about how bad my attacks were.)

I have never been stuck in a culvert but that was my worst trigger for panic attacks usually set off by being tangled in the sheets with a cat sitting on me.
Even though I woke up and got up for Ativan I could not stop the circle. Action-thought-reaction (panic) back to thought-reaction-thought-reaction building on the negative till the Ativan worked to break the thought.

I had been reading some fantasy one evening and in it these animals were crossing a road by using a culvert and hiding from the cars lights by waiting in it. They were fantasy animals like Frodo in lord of the rings.

Next nightmare when I woke up in a sweat I put the two together. I visualized the culvert bigger and me smaller and I was sitting in it with my back to the wall/side looking out of it. I felt safe rather than scared. In my mind I sat there safe looking at the world go by like a little mouse. In my mind I made the culvert as big as the one under the road by Baker creek down the road. It is about ten feet high. 

Association allows a person to do this when you go from action to thought on the way to reaction. 

I have had the nightmare often but now I go automatically to a bigger culvert and a safe place to be. BP drops back to normal, shakes stop and I go back to sleep. 

I was always told I could find something positive in my memory to stop the negative thoughts but like I said thought moves at the speed of light and looks at things in your memory so fast and so many for it to stop and use something it has to be related or there more than once. It's importance level has to be high enough to grab on to and hold. 

So if a person keeps filling their memory with negative things that is what you will get. 

But see I built on those critters in their big culvert so I would have some association I could use.

I hope this made sense. It is amazing how well this works, so I hope it can work for you.

Davit.
12 years ago 0 4027 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Davit, How did you twist or change you dreams. I find it awful waking with nightmares every day?
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It looks interesting, but its such a struggle for me to make decisions, between perfectionsism and procrastination and lack of time and guilt.
 
There wasn't enough to can, but we did make and freeze some pesto, but only because I didn't plant the parseley someone gave us as a gift.
 
I'm trying to let go of "stuff" as I simplify my life, but I'm not good at loss
12 years ago 0 1665 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
HI Hugs:  I used to can a lot, not anymore.  I used to make dill pickles, bread and butter, mixed pickles, relishes.  Then crabapple jelly, red and black currant jelly, strawberry and raspberry jams, grape jelly.  I like to mix my own salad dressing, such as balsamic vinegar and olive oil, or olive oil and vinegar and oregano, garlic for the Greek salads.  I used to freeze beans and tomatoes, whatever from the garden for the winter.  Hardly do this anymore, very little now, but I do continue the crabapple jelly because a lot of people look forward to it and it makes me happy to give it to them.  Wish they'd give me my jars back, I have asked, lol.  Do you do any canning?  What do you like?  You have mentioned your garden before.
 
Sunny
12 years ago 0 4027 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Sunny,
I like your new avatar showing the season for canning.  What are your favourites for canning?
12 years ago 0 1665 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Funny you should mention this.  I've had two nightmares lately.  Haven't had any for a long long time.  I have been stressed lately, not so badly that I can't sleep, but it does show up in our dreams I think.
 
Sunny
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I don't dream the way I used to when I was young.  I still have a diary of how idealistic I was.  I'm getting better though.
 
Mom's doc wanted to change an appointment, and I "just said no".  No worry, no guilt, no pressure, no attitude.
 
Life doesn't have to have glitz and glam and fireworks. 
 
 
12 years ago 0 6252 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
When I have reoccurring dreams I twist them when I replay them to my liking so that if they come back they most often come back as the twisted version. I have to do this because many of mine are claustrophobic and they can be very painful. If you can't find something positive in the dream then add something.

Davit.
12 years ago 0 4027 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
I think dreaming, whether pleasant or not, is our being's way of purging itself.  It's just a bit unpleasant.  I used to record my dreams, but I think it's best to let sleeping dogs lie.  I don't have to deal with a workplace any longer.
 
 
12 years ago 0 11214 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hi Hugs,
 
Perhaps there is still something you need to learn from the experience? What positive can you take away from the situation?  What did you learn going through the situation?

Ashley, Health Educator

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