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12 years ago 0 +0 / -0 4027

I thought i was the only one getting overwhelmed! I did go to a big box store for help, and they gave me an overview of options for organizing. Also, a family member will help a bit, but my social circle has shrunk with the little time I have, since I can't nourish relationships with the caregiving duties increasing.

Maybe the next renovation will be easier

12 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1665

Hi Hugs: I find looking at magazines a good help. I even had a file folder with pics of the things I loved best. This folder can be brought to the store and shown to the clerks who can help you find these things, or similar (yea, some are outrageously expensive, lol). It can be used for paint colours, window accessories, anything at all which you like and want to compare and show the store clerks.

Even on line, there are great decorating sites to look at and they often will show you the abc's of how-to's.

Good luck! I love decorating and getting things in order, wish I could be there to help Hugs, 'cause I would be happy to do so. and we could laugh over some of the silly ideas over a cup of tea/coffee.

Your friend, Sunny

12 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1853

Hi hugs4U,

Planning to redecorate or reorganize in the home can get overwhelming very quickly, no matter the size of the project! Have you tried scaling the room down on paper and using cut-outs of your larger furniture to see how different layouts could function?

That's something that may help.

Your main question though is an important one and I imagine most people have difficulty asking for help at one time or another.

Although, I think most people are willing to help when friends are in need. Have you reached out to your friends for help with your home project? If so, what was their reaction? If not, why do you think you would scare them away?

Members, when have you had to ask someone for help? Do you find it difficult accepting help when it is offered to you?

Vincenza, Health Educator

12 years ago 0 +0 / -0 4027

I wonder if others have experienced problems with "asking for help"?

We're doing a small home project, and I'm finding I have so many limits. While we lose some space in the home, I can't seem to figure out what would look good, aesthetically. I asked the contractor's sales person, who may help. Also, I tried searching on the internet, but that's not working. I also asked a family friend, but he has other thiings to do. With a deadline, and being stuck, and a parent I'm trying to support, it's hard to ask for help, since my needs aren't being met either, and I'm feeling extended.

I couldn't decide yesterday, between buying a transparent or opaque blinds hem gripper, so the blind doesn't get dirty where it's gripped repeatedly. I didn't even know these existed!

I really wish to help, but I can see sometimes, that I'm outside my element, and with this condition, there are additional limits.

I think that conditions that we describe on this seem to interfere with compartmentalizing things in memory, as opposed to having a good memory. When I went into a store which has a lot of stuff for organizing, I found it was hard to make choices about what to purchase, and perfectionism doesn't help. I can see why I have a lot of clutter, since these units might help, but they're not part of my "world", since I don't see the world that way.

Unfortunately, I have a great memory, and can "worry up" a storm.

Asking for help is hard too, since I don't want to scare friends away with too many demands...

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