I decided not to respond then I find out that hugs4U has a neck problem and long paragraphs were hearting hugs4U neck. We have to be careful how we respond to each other because our responses are filtered through our own life experiences.
Had hugs4U said in the beginning of the post that long paragraphs were a problem for hugs neck the whole post would have provided a different meaning then the one we I interpreted. Alternatively, I sure I had said that I had a learning disability then hugs would have understood that.
Perhaps hugs thread was not a response to mine or anyone else it was just frustration of having neck pain while trying to read. This is where CBT should be of used you should not make judgements about other people’s posts because we may not know what is behind (the filter) in a person’s post.
So if there is a problem like this again ask for verification of what the person said like Davit said he is willing to explain himself if you do not know where he is coming from.
I just wanted to through this one out for Davit to answer, you were replying to Red in that all her fear comes from a lack of control of agoraphobia. I agree with you that most people problem stem from a lack of control but I would also add that the control we lack is the onset of a panic attack. We do not want to feel intense fear in a situation that most people on this site now know is out of proportion to the event. This is where I find my control when I can separate an event that cause an attack from the attack itself.
When we can see the event as separate and not logical to cause such fear we gain control over the event. This works with a thought also and in any situation that one finds him or herself in that causes an attack.
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