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Hello Teebes.
I am glad you are enjoying the Mindfulness Workbook.
You raise some very good questions when it comes to the practice of mindfulness.
First. Not all mindfulness practices resonate with everyone. Practice with as many as seem of interest to you and then stick with those that work the best for you. Keep in mind that the ones that may work the best are not always the ones that "feel" good. At a retreat I had a Zen Roshi tell me: "Good meditation bad for you, bad meditation good for you." You can imagine how THAT changes things regarding my expectations about mindfulness!
Next. Yes, many times when practicing mindfulness in our lives things can get pretty stirred up, both emotionally and physically. Working with our breath is the most powerful practice we can engage in. It allows us to move through many of the layer's we put up to keep from feeling. When practicing with the breath voilà! There they are. All that stuff that we would rather not look at or feel.
I say this with great sincerity, I teach this in my retreats and classes: when we really begin to get stirred up we are beginning to make some progress.
So, hang in there, be very patient, open, and compassionate with your self. If the breathing practices are a bit too much start slowly, maybe for just a minute or two, the work form there.
Also try keeping a journal of what bit is that gets stirred up: emotions, physical sensations. Do not judge them, just report what they are and learn form them.
I hope this helps!
Thomas Roberts
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Thanks Sunny! It's reassuring to know I'm not the only person who got *more* anxious when doing the exercises the first time. I wondered too if I was doing something wrong. I'll keep at it.
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Hi Teebs:  At first I did find it difficult and I would get more anxious also. I kept thinking I wasn't doing it right.  It took a long time for me when I was at my worse of daily practice to finally be able to fully relax and "get it".  Don't give up, keep practicing. I especially like the quick body scan I use when I know I'm beginning to get tense.  I sit quietly, take 2-3 deep breaths then slow down my breathing and scan my body from head to toe for areas which are tight and try and relax those muscles further.  Sometimes after doing that, even if not 100% successful, I will visualize inhaling a soft lilac colour letting it cleanse and heal the inside, then when I exhale, I visualize a dark mossy green colour (the lilac colour picking up and dirtied with the negative) which represents ridding the body of the negative/hurts/tension. 
hope this answers your question a bit.
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Several people have recommended mindfulness training/meditations as being a helpful way to relax and learn to manage anxiety, so I ordered The Mindfulness Workbook and have been working my way through it reading and trying the exercises as I go along. A lot of what I read "clicks" for me - it makes sense and makes me feel better to read and think about the world that way. Today, however, I had kind of a tough experience after doing one of the exercises.
 
The exercise was all about breathing in positive healing, and breathing out distress and tension. In addition, it was about accepting your body as a whole, and sitting with the feeling of distress wherever you carry it in your body. For me, I carry a lot of tension in my jaw/throat (I've posted before about the gaggy feeling I get). I was fairly relaxed going into the exercise, but tuning into my body like that and areas of tension I really felt my throat tighten up and I started feeling very anxious!
 
 I was just wondering if anyone else has used mindfulness, and if it has helped? Do some of the meditative exercises start out hard and then get better? I know I try to block out what my body is telling me a lot, so it's unnatural for me to tune in to what I'm feeling like that, but I sure didn't like it! It took me a couple hours to start feeling a little better again.


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