Here's what happened. My husband just graduated basic training last weekend and he sent his letters home with me so I can pack them. Yesterday, I had the urge to re-read the letters that I wrote to him, just so I could go back and see the changes in my anxiety from then, when I couldn't talk to him, to now. It turns out that his mother and I both used long envelopes. Not paying attention, I grabbed the first envelope off the top. When I opened it I realized that it wasn't my letter, but my stepdad distracted me and I dropped it. When I picked up the second page I saw some not-so-nice things written about me. I know it was wrong, but when I see something bad about me I'm going to read it.
She thinks that I "broke" into my husband's facebook to spy on him...at least that's what she wrote to him. What actually happened was I had called his brother and sister for his password to his World of Warcraft account because I needed to close the account. She also told him that I called the both of them fishing for his facebook password. He gives me all of his passwords anyway, but I forget them BECAUSE I normally see no need to remember them. He HATES clearing off his facebook of all the notices and stuff and I knew that he would have a lot of them on there since he was in BCT and unable to check it. So I got on his facebook to clear old messages and things that I knew he would hate to do. In my eyes, I was being a good wife and I knew that my husband wouldn't care in the least.
She wrote to him telling him that she was surprised that he wasn't upset with me and that she's lost a lot of respect for me. She said that just because he's married doesn't mean that he loses the right to all his privacy. She also started off the letter by saying that I had stopped reporting to them how he was doing and that it seemed that if they were going to find out anything about him he would need to write her. This was also, excuse my language, but CRAP too!! I called or visited any time that I would hear something new or interesting from him. If they didn't hear from me it was because I didn't even know anything new. What did she want a play by play on how much he missed me, because that was what most of his letters were about. Besides the fact that nobody ever bothered CALLING ME to find out how he was doing!! I was going through enough without having to worry about keeping in touch with them. Why was it only up to me?
When I called my husband to tell him that I saw the letter he was so sweet and supportive. I'm kind of glad that it happened because it showed me that no matter what he had my back. He said that he had debated for a long time whether or not to tell me about the letter because he didn't want me to be hurt. He said that that was why he had not written her back after that letter because he didn't appreciate what she said about me. He said that he plans to have a talk with her. He thinks that once he explains what really happened that everything will be cleared up.
In my opinion, I don't think this has anything to do with what she wrote. I think that she is angry because she's realizing that he's not her baby anymore. Before ya'll ask, yes he is the baby of the family. I think that it made it even worse that when she asked him if she should go to the graduation or not he said that he would prefer that time with me. SHE is the one who gave HIM the option, saying that she would understand, but I think she was expecting a different answer. I had to go over there today to get his mail and his Dad gave me a bunch of crap about him "not calling his mother more". Later on he told me that he understood, but that it was my husband's mother who wants to hear from him. I will be so glad when I move to AZ with him, in less than a week, and I don't have to be caught in the middle of all this.
Sorry, this is so long. I guess I had to vent.
