I agree about journalling - or a letter. I have done both and continue with the journalling. I still have things which bother me and have difficulty talking about. Journalling or writing a letter is a safe way to get it out and nobody else has to see it. I have found I have to do it more than once too. Sometimes I feel that I have dealt with it and it feels great. Later, it sneaks in again. Is it because it is like stages of grief, perhaps lessening as time goes by? I suppose it is different for everyone. Another thing I have trouble with is talking about the person who did "such and such". I feel like I'm gossiping or blackening their name and then feel guilty and think I shouldn't have said anything, when in reality, they did do it, it was real and it was to me and I do need to acknowledge the pain and not bury it. Am I making sense?