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14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 124

Hi Red,

I agree with sweatbee, try not to let that lady from the club get under your skin! She is likely definitely jealous of you and probably not realizing how hurtful her actions are towards others. You are a good person Red, I believe in you!

SIM

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 122

Hi Red

I'm sorry that the lady of your group is not very polite, when someone

does that to me either joking or not I always smile and say thats ok

I don't need one or that I don't need one I've got something better!

this way if it was done to hurt my feelings their plan fails, some

people just like to hurt others but if they see that it doesn't they

move on so to speak. Just a thought but could she be jealous

of you? either way its her problem!! don't let it get you down.

as for relationships time has a way of working things out and

it will let you know weather to say or go. Your a good person

Red believe in yourself. all my best.

sweatbee

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 192

Hello Red: I am really sorry for what you are going through. I've been through the same thing trying to decide what the next step would be. I haven't mentioned it in my posts, too difficult for me, but certainly the waffling back and forth brings on anxiety too. I feel for you 100%. Life isn't perfect that's for sure. God bless you and keep you safe. I will be praying for you. I hope you will be able to post and let us support you. We really care for you and what happens. No matter what happens, pls. know that the people on this site will still be here for you.

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 6252

Red

I am really concerned here. Can your partner not go alone and explain to every one that you were committed elsewhere. A lot of couples do separate things. It adds spice to life and gives people something to talk about. You sound like there is more than this instance happening. Are you trying too hard to hold it all together. I get the feeling that you are thinking of giving up. Remember that what ever you decide that I am first and foremost your friend and will stick by you what ever you decide and that I will not judge. Only you can decide what to do and some decisions can be hard, don't I know it.

Your friend forever.

Davit.

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 11213

Red,

We are always going to be here for you through thick and thin. We will always be here to listen.

Let us know how you decide to do.

Ashley, Health Educator

Here to help :)

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 420

Ashley,

Thank you for your response and understanding in my time of need. I will try to remain strong even though my heart is hurting right now. I do feel myself going into a downward spiral and I am doing my best to stop it. They say time heals all wounds I guess I will just have to see if that is true this time. This has been a on going waxing and waining type of injury.

Red

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 420

David,

Thanks for the support and feed back on this situation. I have told my partner how I feel about this and how much it hurts me and how hard it is for me to go to these functions. I think his love for his engines and his need to belong to this group and fit in has blinded him to what is really important in life. His is a collector and it is a major obsession for him. Anyway I find I have a lot of soul searching and thinking to do about this whole situation and am trying to decide if I want to stay in this relationship anymore. I am not really sure it is going to work out for me in the long run. Forever can be a long time. I will continue to try to hang tough but my heart is hurting right now. Thank you for being there for me, for caring and for listening. You are a true friend and I will never forget it.

Semper Fi,

Red

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 11213

Hi Red,

Difficult people can be very challenging to handle! I'm sorry she is causing you so much worry! For her to have that much power to make you worry about going to these events is just not fair. Do not give her this power. Conflict can be tough to and everyone deals with it in different ways. I normally just kill them with kindness. If she is being difficult and does that again and says you don't get a ticket, smile and say, "oh really?! Why not?" Then if she has a response say something like, "oh I appreciate your concern but our regulations say..." Looking at your clubs policies and procedures is a great idea for this!

Do not let this person effect you like this. You are too strong, too smart and too kind to worry about this woman. Anyone watching would realize that she is the one in the wrong and probably feel embarrassed for her!

No matter what you decide to do stay strong! Tell us what happens.

Here to help :)

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 420

Sunny,

Thanks for the feed back. I look on line and see if there is policy and procedures manual and if they addresses tickets in it.

As for my partner he did have to fight for a dinner ticket at the last show we showed in last October. I just walked off and spent most of my time alone at the trailer for that show.. There is a show coming up the middle of April that we are going to show in. Its about a 6 hr drive from our home in heavy traffic. I really do not feel like going this time in light of what just happened. It is just way to depressing no matter how you look at it. Anyway I won't give up and I'll try to steer clear of bullies in the mean time. Thanks again Sunny for your support.

Red

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 6252

Red.

No this is not a set back, it is a natural reaction to an unpleasant situation.

Yes I do know how to deal with this type of person if she is definitely doing it on purpose. I don't know if you can do it though, I don't know if you can be aggressive enough. Remember that you are you and even if you were only a guest you still have a right to be there. Timing is important. What you do is watch for her out of the corner of your eye and just as she is about to speak you cut her off by saying. Hi Ruth, and then turn away and ignore her or say something to some one else. If she gives you a ticket handle it like it was dirty and set it aside like it was also. Don't play to her. If she talks to you look at her like you didn't hear her. Be polite but ignore her like you have better things to do. Like I said, I don't know if you can do this. You are too nice of a person. The alternative is to just ignore her and the situation. I don't want to see you get set back. How important is this to you? By rights your partner should be dealing with this if he wants you there with him. Does he know how much this bothers you? Does he know how hard you have to work to be there with him?

Now if this turns out to just be her warped way of trying to make you comfortable, and it could be then you just want to be polite and ignore the situation totally. You will have to look close at this and decide which way to handle it.

What ever you decide do not let it set you back. If you find you just can't go then don't and don't beat yourself up for that decision. You may just need a rest from the situation.

Hang in there and be tough my friend.

Davit.

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