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14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 30

I think the wheels are turning,

Today our district manager came to town. And normally he is stressed and very abrupt with us management to make sure everything is perfect for the VP visit. Today when he walked in he came right to me and asked how was I doing. His strun edge was not there at ALL. I knew right away he was filled in by HR on the phone call I made. Im woundering what tomorrow will bring. My boss had today off but will be in tomorrow. Im curious how our DM will react to my boss. Unforunately Im not in till 2pm. I hope he will still be there when I get in to see what might take place, or how he reacts when my boss goes off on me. Because I know this is a given in. My boss phoned from his home today to ask about the poweroutage yesturday that happened at work, which was my day off. I read him the note that was left about throwing out the hot food from our Deli department, He lost it, and asked me why In the hell was that thrown out. I told him it probably would of been unsafe to eat knowing there was no power for 35 minutes. He freaked again on me. I cut him off and said hey Im just reading the note that was left for me. He is not even at work and he still manages to upset me. The first little problem tomorrow he will go off on me and I sure hope this happens in front of our DM.

I hope he screws up bad

Colleen

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 30

Thank You Joey,

What happened with my neighbour was and still is upsetting. But there was a great lessoned learnt from it. Treat others the way you would like to be treated. I know its an old saying, but I live by it. If I can make one persons day or get them to smile I feel really good about myself. I think thats why I love to work with the public. And thank you for the prayer.

Take Care

Colleen

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 37

Just read your postings. I know it's hard to open up how you did. I also understand that it helps to say what's on your mind. The neighbor story really struck a chord with me .... I can relate. I had teachers discriminate against me .... one even told me I would be a loser when I grew up. These are people we respect, and it really hurts. Life's hard enough as it is. Don't allow someone to make it harder. I'll be praying for you tonight.

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 30

Thank you,

HR will be flying in next week to address the matter. I have one week to speak to my boss on the issues that I brought to HR attention. This is stage two and maybe the hardest. Confronting my fear face to face. I wish this wasn't put back on my lap again, but it has. I need to do this. I will keep yous posted. I hope I don't freeze with panic. I'm panicking already.

Scared to death literally

Colleen

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 11216

Good for you Colleen!

If nothing else it will be on record that you contacted HR if any other issues arise. Be sure to fill us in when you have the time.

Ashley, Health Educator

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14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 30

I got the call,

The phone rang and my emotions were on my sleeve. My voice started rattling as I tried my hardest to control my tears. I told him point by point my concerns. He then repeated them back to me to show me was fully listening. He feels I should take my boss aside and give him the same points that I just said. I told him about the panic attacks I get when getting ready for work and while driving to work. He was very concerned. I told me to see my doctor to get them under control. I had told him that I have sought out this group and he said thats a good thing...Sorry I will have to tell the rest in bit my brother in law stopped by.

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 11216

Great Colleen!

Remember you are doing a very good thing. This is an important step to resolving the problem. You are such a strong person for doing this. You are not only helping yourself by doing this but you are also helping all your employees! That's amazing.

It is completely normal that you are nervous. I would be concerned if you weren't

You have all your points and you will do great. Remember that you have thought for awhile that this needs to be addressed and you have every right to assert yourself. They will listen because what you are saying is reasonable. If you get a little emotional it is ok. This is an emotional situation. You can do this. From all your posts I heard you were a very strong, articulate woman. Stick to the facts and you will be fine. You do not have to say anything you feel uncomfortable with.

Stay close to the boards. We are right here.

Ashley, Health Educator

Here to help :)

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 30

No turning back now,

I just left a message with HR to home me back at home. I hope I can keep my emotions intact. My hands are shaking right now and the heart is just thumping. I'm going to stick to the points and not veer away. My biggest problem to control is my emotions when I tell him the physical state my boss puts me in. I'm feeling anxious right now thats theres no turning back. I hope to hell I can do this and I don't fall apart.

Colleen

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 11216

Hi Colleen,

BIG congratulations! So happy for you and your husband! Sounds like you had a great day! How did you stop yourself from having racing thoughts?

About your work situation; it is a great idea to write down all the facts. Keep a running tally of what exactly happened, the date, who said what and who witnessed the situation. You can give HR this information and yours but I would avoid repeating here say. If an employee voices concerns you can mention this but I would avoid repeating anything you heard from others.

About the panic attacks, I think it is very valid to let HR know about this. They should be able to understand this and that it is very responsible of you to address this as you are taking control of your health. There is nothing wrong with asserting yourself as long as you do it in a responsible way. It takes a lot of courage to do this and it really shows your character that you will be addressing this issue. Good for you!

Ashley, Health Educator

Here to help :)

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 30

Sorry Samantha,

I know your question was how will I cope with it. Thats a good question. Tomorrow might be the day I tackle this on going saga. I know I have to place an other phone call to HR and put this on their lap. Its my bosses anger problem and his sense of lose control that make him react that way. I cant change who he is or why he lashes out on others but HR can do something specially when his assistants and employees are paying the price. Now to just get the courage to make this call. I'm going to write down all the facts before I place this call and speak on behalf of the employees as well. Or should I only speak on what I'm been going through. Should I mention its the stress that causes me my panic attacks. Or will that make me seem unstable to be in my position.

Help on this is needed

Colleen

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