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16 years ago 0 778 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hi Mya . Again like you i have this with my husband . Last week he was very snappy . I did try seeing it from his side it must be hard for him .
 
He is usually very good . I had to gently point out that i have helped him over the years when he goes through his dark depression times . That
 
hit a cord and he was better . It does make you feel 10 times worse though . Hard enough getting through the day sometimes !!

16 years ago 0 2101 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hi Mya,
 
I sure do understand. I have had the same problems with my husband...I really empathize with you. In my case, it did get better for that. It is not perfect but with time and information he got much more understanding. Anyway, all that to say, hang in there :)
 
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16 years ago 0 41 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Mya
 
It must be hard for people who do not experience anxiety et. al. to really have an empathy for what we sometimes go through.  Although my wife is a nurse and
very supportive, on occasion, when she is irritable or tired or fed up she may respond in a "snap out of it" or "just do it " response.  For myself,I feel it is
hard enough working through all of this without having to suffer that.  Then I think about it from her side.  She is frustrated that she doen't really
get what people like us can sometimes feel and so it is a bit of a leap of faith for her/them.  At least we feel it, they have to imagine it and then try to feel it. 
In some weird way I'm better off.  Sounds a little wacky I know.  By the way, Miki is so right about involving those we love in this program / forum.  And just venting
is the best medicine, it sure does help me to have so many understanding and caring people I can vent to.  So keep on venting, everyone is here for you!
 
Michael
16 years ago 0 477 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hi Mya,
I've been through that also, but that's what I did too, I involved him into this program with me. And he has a lot of better understanding too. It's hard and embarrassing sometimes to tell him what I go through, but I do it and it's always better to tell him. He get's a better view. Good luck! Sometimes, I just write him a letter. 

16 years ago 0 101 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
mya-
I can relate to your frustration!!! If I'm pushed I freak out more. I too need to go at my own pace...My ex-husband didn't understand what I was
going through back in the days when I really had bad attacks.  Years after we were divorced he apologized for not being more understanding
because he started suffering from them. I guess his own experience taught him more then what I could explain.  I definitely agree that info
could possibly help him!!!!
Birdie
16 years ago 0 12049 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
mya, Sometimes knowledge is a key component for others. Take the time to print off some material for him to read. You are persevering and doing well, so keep pushing forward and know that we are behind you :) Josie, Health Educator
16 years ago 0 53 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Well overall the last week has been a bit improved...no panic attacks but still have generalized anxiety throughout the day...i do feel calmer sence starting the paxil 11 days ago. my problam is that I am frustrated with my husband...in the begining of February I was very functional..I drove to the store alone,did all the shopping and ran all the errands..since the end of February my panic has been horrible..I haven't driven and find it hard to go into the grocery store even with my husband..today some grocery shopping needs to be done...he knows I have been improving slowly but I feel he is constantly trying to force me into situations...for example..he wanted to drop me off at the grocery store while he goes to my boys game...I told him no...and he sais "WOW"...that made me feel like crap...I am really frustrated with him and myself at the moment...I know he doesn't understand why something so simple to him is hard and terrifying to me ...sorry just needed to vent!!!!

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