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like if I say I won't drink I can hold myself to that.
If you can stay stopped, perhaps thats the approach you should take. Not take that first drink. But the problem is, we cant stay stopped. Try staying stopped for a year and honestly look at how you handle life.
I'm new here as well and don't know how to start my own discussion but don't want to co-opt someone else's thread. Just wanted to say hey and say that my problem has less to do with starting drinking... like if I say I won't drink I can hold myself to that. It's just that when I do start one drink usually means I finish the bottle... I miss the times when I could just have a couple drinks socially and not get trashed. Seemed related enough to the original posters issue that this would fit here. I guess you're not alone and I'm hoping that this site might help? I'm running out of pleasant options.
I love hearing that you feel confident. That is a great sign of future success. Slips are a normal part of the healing process; so, I am glad you are not beating yourself up about them too much. It sounds like you are well on your way.
We are not able to support the text messaging program currently. It does not work for the majority of people and we are unable to provide the resources to maintain it. It was a great program so it is disappointing; however, all of the other tools are still free and usable. I hope you are still able to benefit from using the other tools.
Welcome to the forum. The book alcoholics anonymous uses the term "peculiar mental twist" that precedes each drinking bout. Like yours a thought flashes "Just one drink" and we succumb to the desire. We dont think of the consequences at that moment. All we are focused on is that effect produced buy alcohol. There is a story in the book they wrote back in 1939 see if you can relate::
“I was much impressed with what you fellows said about alcoholism, and I
frankly did not believe it would be possible for me to drink again. I
rather appreciated your ideas about the subtle insanity which precedes
the first drink, but I was confident it could not happen to me after
what I had learned. I reasoned I was not so far advanced as most of you
fellows, that I had been usually successful in licking my other personal
problems, and that I would therefore be successful where you men
failed. I felt I had every right to be self-confident, that it would be
only a matter of exercising my will power and keeping on guard.
“In this frame of mind, I went about my business and
for a time all was well. I had no trouble refusing drinks, and began to
wonder if I had not been making too hard work of a simple matter. One
day I went to Washington to present some accounting evidence to a government bureau. I had been out of town before
during this particular dry spell, so there was nothing new about that.
Physically, I felt fine. Neither did I have any pressing problems or worries. My business
came off well, I was pleased and knew my partners would be too. It was
the end of a perfect day, not a cloud on the horizon.
“I went to my hotel and leisurely dressed for
dinner. As I crossed the threshold of the dining room, the thought came
to mind that it would be nice to have a couple of cocktails with dinner.
That was all. Nothing more. I ordered a cocktail and my meal. Then I
or- dered another cocktail. After dinner I decided to take a walk. When I
returned to the hotel it struck me a highball would be fine before
going to bed, so I stepped into the bar and had one. I remember having
several more that night and plenty next morning. I have a shadowy
recollection of being in an airplane bound for New York, and of finding a
friendly taxicab driver at the landing field instead of my wife. The
driver escorted me about for several days. I know little of where I went
or what I said and did. Then came the hospital with unbearable mental
and physical suffering.
Hi. I'm 'sort of' new here, in that I've resubscribed in an effort to curtail my drinking-again. Feeling pretty confident this time, though. I'm in Day 8 of sobriety, with one day of relapse. I wrote in my diary just the day before that the one thing I have to watch for is feeling good mentally and physically and using that as an excuse to take "just one drink." And of course, that's just what I did - which ended up looking like "just six drinks." There was a time when I would have considered that one day as the end of sobriety and need to 'start over', but now I just see it as a blip in a continuous run of successful days. I don't know that these forums are a big help to me, but I do enjoy keeping the diary and seeing my progress.
Ashley, one thing: I signed up for the daily text messages, but they aren't coming. I checked my profile and it seems that I have it right. Are they still a 'thing'? Thanks.
The first step to change is thinking about changing. Congrats on getting started! It sounds like you want to create new habits. What new habits do you think you will try out first?
There are certain number people who can never safely drink alcohol, worse part is, they will vehemently deny that and keep trying various methods to control their drinking. There is a term for that-Alcoholics. You will have to diagnose yourself if you are one.
Hello Sebastian and welcome. Currently I am not having to deal with the desire of drinking, but I remember the urge you described. It seems you want to moderate your drinking. Have you tried to completely abstain?
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