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Hi Vee,

I think being around people who drink is a trigger for many people. It is such a big trigger that we recommend avoiding high risk situations, like being around people who drink, until you are more confident in your goal. If you know people are going to be drinking avoid going. If this is impossible then have a plan in place. Know how you will decline alcohol and know what you will do if you feel triggered. Have the Emergency Coping Plan (from the Education section) on hand:

Emergency Coping Plan
At some point, and sometimes "out of the blue", you'll be faced with situations that will trigger the urge to relapse or slip. We call these high-risk situations, which can be caused by triggers. Review this Emergency Coping Plan to help you deal with these situations. If you feel the urge, or are tempted to slip:

AVOID the situation. Identify the situations as one in which you'd be tempted to drink. For most, high-risk situations are times of the day, activities, emotions or even people that tempt you to drink or remind you of drinking. Plan how you'll avoid these situations. Plan for alternate activities.

LEAVE the situation. If you find yourself in a high risk situation, leave immediately or contact someone who can help you.

DISTRACT yourself from cravings. If you find yourself in a situation you can't leave and you get a craving, distract yourself from the craving by:

Thinking about something else, like your Coping Plan or Reward Plan or perhaps how the progress you've made or how your body is healing itself.
Do something else to distract yourself. Try drinking water or deep breathing exercises.
Thinking about an upcoming event in your life, such as a vacation.

DELAY acting on the craving If you can't keep your mind off the craving, then make a deal with yourself that you'll wait 15 minutes before you give into the craving. The craving will usually pass in a couple of minutes anyway. If you keep delaying, the craving will go away.

Use SELF TALK A craving may be accompanied by negative thoughts about your ability to resist it. Use positive self talk statements to combat your negative thoughts.

We encourage you to print this document and keep it somewhere handy (such as in your purse, on your fridge, in your wallet, gym bag or desk drawer).

Keep us updated on how you do,


Ashley, Health Educator
4 years ago 0 557 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
My body needs a break from alcohol... This was one of my reason to stop. I had that discomfort in my body, not sure if it was the liver but it was scaring me. One of my best friend died from liver cancer after drinking all his life. He was 56 and I am 60 so maybe I still have time to repair the damage I inflicted on my body all those years.

Congratulations for your goal of stopping altogether. And I agree with Lynn. Some person try to convince us that one drink is nothing but they do not want to accept they might have a problem too.
4 years ago 0 39 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
I totally agree ! and that is a great way of phrasing it thank you! my mind convinces myself that I am ok so maybe its not even them maybe its me and I use them as an excuse to drink. who knows, all I know its that my body does actually need a break and I cannot drink. I really like how you put that because it helped me see it differently ! I have always put my issues on others . oh they drink so I drink. I need to also take responsibility . they dont force it down my throat . 
4 years ago 0 347 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Vie,
Everybody is different, and I'm not pretending to know your family, but I think people have that reaction sometimes because they know they need a break too but are afraid to admit it.  Maybe if you tried phrasing it as your body needs a break from the alcohol their reaction might be different.  Also, as in anything else, no means no.  It's not an invitation for discussion.  You said you are struggling with your own self convincing.  Can you clarify that for me?  Are you trying to convince yourself that you need a break?  

Lynn
4 years ago 0 39 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
yes and I have before and they look at me like ...ahhhh your fine , one drink is fine , you dont have a prob . and I also struggle with my own self convincing . 
4 years ago 0 347 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hello Vie.  Is it possible to tell your family you are going to take a break from alcohol? 
4 years ago 0 39 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hello all, 

so setting my goal . my Goal is no alcohol at all. its fine when im at home I'm don't drink . but at gatherings and at my family's seems impossible, they are all drinkers and think everything is ok . and i dont know why its so hard for me to not drink with them , i do know that  i drank in the past as i have anxiety and it always made it got away ...until the next morning of course which it was worse . i remember i had high anxiety as a child when my family got drunk , I hated it . funny I turned out to be a huge partier , I have that same feeling around people who drink I get anxiety . I don't know how I will get through but I will have to find away because nothing feels worse then waking up, and having a huge hang over, shame , guilt, all of that . so i will take it day by day . any tips for staying strong in those situations (staying strong around family) 

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