Hi Electra,
“Do you find you are able to go days without even thinking about alcohol?”
Yes Electra, now, I go days without even thinking about wine and it was hard won. When I decided to quit the first time I managed 75 days AF. Thought I had given myself enough sober time to chance a drink. Nope, right back into it and worse. And so it began. I would quit, drink, quit drink and each time I beat myself up over it. This last time I finally stopped giving myself such a hard time and decided that I would just be happy about the days I didn’t drink. When I stopped pressuring myself and instead, rewarded myself for each success, the AF days just started to accumulate without so much effort. Certainly felt discouraged from time to time, but better than before.
Do remember that throughout the year I steadily increased my strategies to cope, ate way better and exercised. I learned a lot and came to this site most days. I never thought that I’d ever be able to have a few drinks from time to time with friends and be happy with that but I have finally gotten there I believe. Took me a full year but here I am. I no longer “need” alcohol, and am so happy that I do not have to do a circuit of liquor stores to save face.
As I mentioned before, I do not believe that everyone that has a problem with alcohol needs to avoid it indefinitely. Sometimes we just need to revisit healthy habits and rewire our thinking patterns to regain control. Biggest thing in my opinion is to love “yourself.” If you hate yourself, it just gives you another excuse to drink excessively.
Not saying that my strategy will work for others, but it did work for me.
Electra, whatever your drinking goal is that you want to set for yourself is doable. When you achieve it depends on your investment and remember that time is your greatest ally.
You can do this!
TS