Wow, what a dreadful week end! Thank God it is over. My mother in law was visiting my husband who is in a care home. She always has a way of making me feel so bad about myself. I've been alcohol free for over 3 months. After the first few weeks I didn't struggle with cravings at all. Friday night, less than 3 hours into the visit, I was desperate for a drink! I came on the site, read over some posts, including my own, and rememberred how drinking doesn't fix anything. There was no way I was letting this 4' 8'' woman knock me back. It is really hard though when some people don't let you forget the past. The stupid things I did when I was drinking, the embarassment and humiliation, she just drags it all up every time I see her. She finds fault with everything I say and do. She doesn't live close which is a blessing and I know I just have to realise that this is her issue, not mine. I can't change it so I have to let it go. Does anyone else have someone in their life who can't leave the past in the past ?