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Lol, now that's funny Foxman! You are so right, alcohol is available every where including where the Eskimo's live. Like Sian I was already isolating myself virtually every time  I drank to excess. I'd go to a party or get together, for coffee with a friend or even to work then come home and knock off a bottle of wine alone. Didn't matter whether I drank during the occasion or not. So really, it wasn't the people or the occasion that needed avoiding, I simply planned to and wanted to get drunk and so I did. When I see friends or family now I tell them I no longer drink, I tell them I just got tired of it all and want to focus on being healthy. Jacq, no person, no event, no TV show or getting in close proximity to alcohol was the trigger...the trigger was within me. Now...I plan...not to drink.
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How do you guys deal with triggers?

We cannont sheild ourselves from booze, because alcohol is abundantly available everywhere. And people could be really influencial. Luckily for me the obsession to drink has been removed, I just have to follow few simple rules. I enjoy going to parties, even last weekend we were at a campsite with couple of heavy drinkers. You know what, thats their business, once they leave the camp, they don't drink may be once in a while. But I am an abnormal drinker. I had to realize that and focus on myself.

The book alcoholics anonymous talks about putting people somewhere like Greenland Ice Cap and even there an Eskima might turn up with a bottle of scotch and run everything. 
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Hi Jacq, I became quite isolated before I realised my problem, and was doing most of my drinking at home. In a drinking environment I was quite capable of embarrassing public binges but I desperately tried not to let that happen - by avoiding them whenever possible. In other words, even as a drinker I was already avoiding people and places just to control the consequences, so it didn't seem like such a big sacrifice to me. Maybe if you have a full and active social life it's harder. Anyway for quite a few months after I quit, I definitely avoided spending time with people who would lead me astray. Most of these characters let me drift without comment, so I haven't even had to explain myself! A couple of friends made contact for one reason or another and I suggested activities like cinema or coffee, we met up for those without any problem. I always had an excuse ready (work or needing to drive later) to avoid going on to a pub or bar. I also avoided parties for some time. Now with over a year alcohol-free I cope fine with drinking occasions, I'm not tempted in any way but I often get bored after a while and leave early. That's fine, and so much better than what used to happen when I overdid it! I feel relaxed about the choices I make and really enjoy the freedom to be myself.
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How do you guys deal with triggers?

For me certain ppl and places just bring out my binge drinking. I have begun to just avoid them, I took up knitting as a means to get and stuff. (a lo of ppl i know knit).

but I cant just keep avoiding ppl. what do you guys do?

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