Great advice from both of you. I have noticed lately that I have my drink gone while other people that I think drink alot do not when I go to get them one. Isn't that ironic! I am coming home to my daughter and driving that night so an easy excuse. I am really going to try to enjoy it though while I am there. I think the only way to do this is to as Dave saids learn to have fun along the way. Not having any fun will be death! I do not mean to belittle cravings or anything that we all go through but I hope we all get to the light at the end of the tunnel in a good way and with a happy attitude. Day three almost done and I am not having a drink tonight! Will check in tomorrow! I will need it I think. Thank you.LisaDawn
Dave, that's so true -- so much energy focused on the next drink. That was one of the signs for me that I am an alcoholic.
LisaDawn, you came to the right place. I am surprised by how much this site -- and the dialogue on it -- means to me. Thinking about the wedding you will be attending, one thing that helps me is to focus on attending to others. For example, looking after the needs of those around me. Making sure I speak with all of the people I know and like. It's very distracting to focus on others -- that is, distracting from thinking about my drinking. What I have been telling people is that I'm not drinking right now because it's making me feel bad or because it's killing me. Simple language. It's more than I need to say; but I don't dwell further on it.
Great work John! That's a big threshold to cross and it will now fuel your resolve to keep on track. It's always a relief to realize that WE'RE the one really concerned about not drinking. It's funny because when before we were really concerned about drinking, as in "Where's my next beer.....wine" and didn't really think about the other person NOT drinking. Keep moving forward John because life continues to get better.
Good for you John. I hope I will find strength at the big wedding party I have this weekend like you did. I think it must be a fear of all of ours of being shunned because we don't want to drink. I will remember this and use the wedding as a test to see how I make out with others. You probably never read my post but I am new to this group and to giving up drinking. Wishing you the best of luck and courage.LisaDawn
Thanks Ashley. It is 13 days now. Today was the first day I had no headache -- what a relief! I was a big party on Saturday night and was fascinated to hear and think about the things people were telling me in their drunken states. Nobody was concerned I wasn't drinking. Lots of people wanted to speak with me -- a relief to know that sober me was at least as much fun as drunken me. And I didn't wake up the next morning wondering if I had offended anyone!! Today was a good day! Hooray! John
That all sounds good. I am glad to hear you are suspending the fasting diet. Your body is going through a lot now and not eating doesn't sound like a good idea.
Be sure to keep an eye out for activities that make you happy too. It can be exciting descovering new hobbies as I am sure you will find that you have a lot more free time and a lot more energy now that you are not drinking.
Lots to look forward to. Now is the tough part. Sounds like you have it under control though!
Went through the exercises on this website including making a goal, telling my wife and close friend, listing triggers, listing my sources of support, listing my rewards, exercising, finding things to do to please my family, starting to read the blue book, looking for a nearby AA meeting (haven't gone to one yet), suspending my diet in which I fast 2 days a week -- fasting leaves me really vulnerable to abuse alcohol the day after.
Wow, recognizing you have a problem and asking for help is such a huge first step. Well proud you were able to get to this point as not all people do! I know it sounds cliche but it is true, this first step you took is monumental not little at all!
Not knowing if you can do it at this point is completely normal just keep thinking about it and working on it and you will get there. Start by gathering as much information as you can; read the program here, use the keyword search to find discussions in the forums, and keep posting. The more information you have the better prepared you will be. Fighting this takes will power but more importantly it takes knowledge and preparation.
How else do you plan on preparing for this? What are you preparation goals for this weekend and next week?
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