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Good luck marylizy -- just be true to yourself! And JP, I agree that an all-inclusive resort (with unlimited alcohol) would probably be rather dangerous. A warm beach certainly sounds heavenly, though...

I am very proud of you, Camiol, for recognizing your drinking patterns and being cautious. That fact alone has already kept you from drinking yourself to oblivion many times since you joined.

You know, by putting my personal drinking patterns and alcohol issues into words so often here, I am so much more aware of my triggers and strengths than I was before before I joined. Also, being accountable to my Moga friends has frequently kept me from overdoing it or breaking my pledge when I know I'll have to 'fess up. Another thing is realizing what has become my favorite current motto: "Relapse doesn't begin when I take that first sip, but when the obsession takes over."  

Drinking moderately is only possible for me when I follow the rules that I've learned work for me. Having a generous supply of wine available when I start drinking is a blindingly obvious trigger. Keeping it in the house means drinking often and without planning or much thought. Letting my glass be refilled before I've finished is a great way for me to not pay attention to (and quickly not care) how much I'm drinking. Keeping a breathalyzer handy to know my BAC before I have a second drink. Or a third. I set myself up for failure when I stop paying attention to the rules that work for me.

Anyway, I have successfully made it through day eleven of my 28 day sobriety challenge. Almost halfway there! Honestly....it really isn't as hard this time. Huh. I'm amazed. Thanks Mogas, for your help.

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A last minute vacation sounds wonderful PJ....I say go for it.  I had another long day at the office and had a glass and a half of wine when I got home and I'm finishing the evening with an Irish cream on ice.  I am very cognizant of the fact that I am falling back into my pattern again and I'm trying not to let it get hold of me.  I'm going to have some serious triggers this weekend.  First my BF comes back home tomorrow from a week long business trip and we will most certainly get together tomorrow.  Saturday is our year end gala for work.  We have a very popular Canadian recording band play and it usually includes about 800 people.  It's a lovely event.  Itll be an earlier night because my husband has to work.  

Anyway,  just wanted to check in.  It seems everyone is doing great.  
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Good work Camiol, Marylizy,
 
Lastnight I went out bowling with a few Chileans, who are up helping us out.  We went bowling and then indulged in some wonderful sushi.  Laughs echoed loudly throughout the restaurant and no alcohol was consumed, I drank water.
:)
 
I tend to drink in excess when I'm alone not doing fun things.
 
We are forced to take an extra week for christmas because things are slow, (I prefer to save vacation for the summer)
 
I might fly somewhere last minute with a friend.  We'll see, I'd like to go somewhere warm, but I'm thinking an all inclusive resort would be a bad idea. 
 
 
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Morning 
Camiol, glad you were able to stay in control. That is all of our wish,right. I too had one drink, tasted good but was able to say, thats all....Tonight have a party but will limit myself to 2 drinks which I can do since I am picking up my girlfriend and will be the driver. Have a wonderful day every one....
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Good evening everyone.  I need to tell you that I am enjoying some wine, however I am keeping it controlled.  I have had a crazy week at work and I just felt the need to unwind.  I'm not using it as a stress reliever, but as a relaxant because I'm so wound up with all the work I have to do in so little time.  I'm heading outside shortly to replace some strings of Christmas lights on my weeping mulberry and get my husband to adjust the lights on a taller tree that I just can't reach because I'm afraid of heights.  I hope you are all having a great evening.  I'm whipped and ready to sleep but there's too much to do.  No rest for the weary.  I will maintain control tonight.  
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Maybe he is an ex-alcoholic. I had a biker friend like that
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Morning and  thank you ladies for your thoughts. Not sure really what I am afraid of...need to work on that though. Guess it is just scary to think of having a relationship...one good thing is this guy does not drink....odd for a biker dude...oh well...will just let it flow, breath and watch my wine intake...zeros posted for today...taking it hour by hour. Don't worry about the junk food Camiol,,,in moderation :) Have a great day everyone....stay strong Hors and PJ...Turquoise and Camiol...and every one else out there....
11 years ago 0 557 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Good work Camiol and by the way, there is nothing wrong about eating fast food.... it is always a question of moderation.
 
Good luck for tomorrow. You seem to be on track
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Tha't wonderful marylizy!
 
There is certainly no age to fall in love or flirting. Take it easy on yourself, everything will go fine
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Marylizy what has got you so freaked out about this man wanting to get to know you?  Is it that since you divorced you only had one other long term relationship, or that it was a brief meeting a year ago and he had enough interest in you back then to want to see you again?  Just because you're 66, does not mean you are no longer entitled to companionship or friendship.  I say do whatever you feel comfortable doing.  

I made it through my fourth day with some difficulty, there were a few times I was about to throw in the towel and pour myself some wine but I survived without it.  I had a rough day at work and was not in a good mood when I got home.  Instead of wine I ate junk food....again not a good idea but better than a bottle of wine.  

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