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12 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1853

Hi PJ,

I agree with Turquoise. Keep pursuing your passions - it sounds like you are on to something with your writing!

Vincenza, Health Educator

12 years ago 0 +0 / -0 409

You have a lot of beauty in you, PJ. Hang on to that. Poetry has been known to change the world.

"...Two roads diverged in a wood, and I-

I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference." -Robert Frost

12 years ago 0 +0 / -0 234

Hi Turquoise,

I feel it was a statement out of anger and frustrated. I could only imagine being a parent and watching their child slowly dying. I'm empathetic, I just sometimes feel hurt by the harsh words. I need time to step back and look at where they are coming from. Although my Mom and Father need help, I'm not one to intervene. What I need to do is just keep doing things I love, playing drums, making music, learning guitar and keep pushing forward. I'm going to have something published in an addiction news letter, they were impressed with some of my words. I like that feeling. Where everything I write is from the heart, and then people like it.

I've been enjoying reading about racism, segregation and some political issues.

As I work for a very wealthy corporate company (they do care for their employees) but they disregard levels of education. It's some what of a self consumed ego. The more I do the things I love doing, the more I realize I'm becoming who I am.

Ego is such a negative feeling, I'm thankful I wasn't raised having one. I could only imagine growing up being told you need to be the best.

12 years ago 0 +0 / -0 409

PJ, why jail? Why not an inpatient (or even outpatient) facility where they can help you?

12 years ago 0 +0 / -0 234

my mother feels I should be locked up in jail.

She feels its the only way to get her son back. Words hurt sometimes eh?

12 years ago 0 +0 / -0 4

Sometimes I really resent my boyfriend because he does not have a problem. I feel like he will never understand. He says if I loved him I would try harder. Two days ago I said I would never drink again and now I already want to bargain with him and myself. There will always be a party and a holiday. I want to drink to feel good, not to make him feel bad. When I am alone I feel it is almost too much to bear. Nothing else distracts me except exercise.

12 years ago 0 +0 / -0 234

Welcome Cypress!

Anything is possible with a good support system!

Just keep believing in yourself, we tend to forget how strong we truly are :)

I lose sense of myself all the time, but then I give my head a shake, and get back to reality :)

12 years ago 0 +0 / -0 9

Thanks so much Fran. Your success is inspiring!!

Everything went really well last night. We went to two bars (first one had pool league so we couldn't use the tables) and I only drank two soda water and crans. :)

Then, we went over to our friends house to play cards, and they broke out the wine, but I didn't indulge! I brought a kombucca with me, I find that this is a wonderful replacement drink, and it's super healthy at the same time.

Oh, it was so hard to abstain though! I felt like my husband's glass of wine was singing to me...

The whole night, and even today, I felt really HAPPY. Like admitting to myself finally that I have a problem and I have to deal with it just lifted this huge weight off my shoulders. I feel like I'm doing something really positive and good.

I told my hubby that I was quitting drinking, and that I joined this site, and he was really supportive. There's now a no alcohol in the house rule, except for beer with gluten in it, because I wouldn't drink that for anything.

I'm optimistic about tonight, I feel like it'll go well. The weekend sounds a bit daunting, but I'm staying positive.

12 years ago 0 +0 / -0 51

Welcome Cypress,

Yes, I agree , this site is quite a find! I have just finished two months of 22 days without drink-each month. That is a far cry from my everyother night drinking. I'm pleased. I'm aiming for 23 days this month. This site has been instrumental in getting me going in the right direction.

I'm also celiac. This cutting down is helping in the healing gut process also. I'm already feeling better physically.

It's the clarity of mind that I find the most satisfying.

Good luck, this is a process that gives me courage....and hope. It's incredibly special to be sharing with people who are going down the same road.

BEST OF LUCK TO YOU. Keep on sharing with us.!!!

12 years ago 0 +0 / -0 9

I just read (most!) of this tread, and wanted to thank you all for the wonderful inspiration.

I'm on day one of totally cutting out the booze. I'm feeling really good about this decision, I've been wanting to do this for awhile, but the task seemed too daunting. I've tried to cut it out before and just relapsed soon after.
I'm on a really limited diet to heal my gut from Celiac disease, and I've already managed to cut out grains (no more burritos and pasta... sigh.), nightshades, coffee (that was REALLY HARD), and cow's milk. So I know I can do this!!!

Haven't told the husband yet. Going to do that tonight. He's a moderate drinker, and he tends to drink more when I drink, so I think me stopping will be good for him too.

I'm also going out to play pool at happy hour with friends in a bit. I'm planning on drinking soda water and cranberry juice. Luckily these friends aren't big boozers, so the social pressure will be low.

Anyhow, glad I found this website! All the best to everyone. :)

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