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Camiol, the Sunday thing for me is just habit at this point.  Like you, I used to have a crappy job and would dread going to work on Mondays.  Well that changed last October and I got a job I really enjoy.  But I had that awful job for so long that it's hard to shake those Sunday issues, even after nearly a year.  It also is habit for me because on Sundays we'd have family over and a lot of us would drink.  That happens less of the time now, but again...bad habits die hard, right?
There's actually tons I could do to distract myself from drinking, but I was in avoidance mode all weekend.  I recently got some news that pretty much turned my life upside down, and while it'll be for the better in the long run, in the short run things are very up in the air and stressful, and it's just easier to ignore it than deal with it.  It's one of the reasons I started drinking again, after being totally sober for three months.  I've been trying to find better coping mechanisms.
 jojo64, good for you!  I understand the overeating part...I swear I thought I'd lose so much weight when I originally started cutting down on alcohol, and instead I think I've gained about 10 or 15 pounds!  *Sigh*  I'm going to use this week to try to get back into good eating habits.  Somebody on these forums posted that it's our bodies craving that sugar we got with the alcohol?  I don't know...maybe something like that.
Had an extremely frustrating day, mostly in part to the overindulging last night and the subsequent mild hangover/exhaustion I felt all day.  It felt like every question was something I couldn't answer!  Then I get home to start up on a second job I've recently picked up, only to discover that it's not entirely what I was expecting, and thus will be more difficult.  Then I have family members texting me questions I don't know the answers to, but because they're questions in my field, obviously I should, right?  So I've been stressed and feeling stupid all day. :(  But the good news is, I don't want a drink!  Thinking I need to do some relaxation exercises and then go to bed early to try to make up for the lost sleep.  Tomorrow will be a better day, because tomorrow I won't be waking up with a hangover.
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Hey Sogas,

I hope you're all hanging in there after the Sunday blues. Slip ups happen and it's okay. Time to move on with a new day, like so many have said. I had a good weekend.. my friend and a couple of her friends came up and drank a lot and I had one sip of beer and one sip of a cooler because I had never tried them and was curious what they tasted like. I didn't have any more than that though and was pretty proud of myself for declining offers of free drinks and staying completely sober while they got drunk. I'm pretty sure I had about 6 cans of club soda though!

I was a little frustrated with myself because I did eat so much junk that night that I had the stomach of a hangover (though not the headache) the next day. I know at this point that I'd much rather over eat than drink but it's frustrating to feel like I have to have some sort of "vice" all the time, and can't just make healthy decisions. Talked to my counsellor today and she warned against replacing one thing with another, so that's something I need to work on.

Also got over another hump in my progress today - spoke with my mother on the phone and told her I'm not drinking right now and she was very supportive. I knew she would be but I'm still glad it's been put out on the table so that Thanksgiving (Canadian thanksgiving is first weekend of Oct) and my step sister's upcoming Stag 'n Doe will be slightly less awkward. I think it's 17 days sober for me now... haven't been sober that long probably since I was 19. So glad I have all of you to keep me accountable and to be supportive through this. Keeping you all in my thoughts and prayers.
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Morning and Happy Monday
I am so glad to see all the posts today. Looks like every one had a pretty good weekend and I can agree with the fact that Sundays can be hard...Like the song goes, "rainy days and Sundays always get me down"...It is an end, to the weekend, a beginning to a new and sometimes dreaded week ahead, it is a lonely day if you are without family, so this and I am sure many more things make it a sad day. That said, it is just a day and we can make it what we want it to be. I am pleased that this is the start of my day 5 sober. I can't say I feel better physically but mentally I sure do. I think it is just the self esteem feeling of doing this that helps me. I know the feeling so well of beating my self up every morning that I wake up after have passing out and not even remembering what I did, who I spoke with on the phone. The OMG feeling of what the hell did I say...Nice not to wake up to that.
Enough rambling. Have a wonderful Monday and please keep checking in. One minute at a time SOGA's
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Eris hang in there...one minute at a time if you have to.  I had an issue with Sundays for a while too....I'd get loaded and would be hungover at work on Monday.  It's been a while since I've done that.  I know my trigger for me was the dread of having to go to work so I'd drink to forget about it.  Do you know what's triggering you on Sundays? Is there something you can do to distract yourself so you don't drink on Sunday?  
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I'm with you MrOz....back on the horse and not giving up.  I'm reaching out my hand to you in support.  One day at a time.
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I just read through this whole thread, everyone is doing so well! Unfortunately I am not. Had way too much tonight and am in need of a break from alcohol. Sundays are problematic for me anyway, and coupled with having the ingredients to a cocktail I have a hard time saying no to...well I'm feeling pretty mad at myself right now. So I'm starting a sober challenge, I think for a week to see how it goes. This isn't good for me, I want to get healthy and alcohol just doesn't seem to work with that. So I'm here.
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Same here Camiol. Hit the white wine Friday night and the red wine last night. Felt like crap this morning. But like you I'm not a quitter, so back on the horse today. One day at a time.
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PJ,  Hang in there.  Why are Sundays your down days?  Is it the fact that the weekend is winding down or another reason?  Is this a trigger for you?  Do you have a regular routine on Sundays?  If so, what can change or do to help lift your spirit? 


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Vincenza thank you for your kind words and I must say that joining this site has been one of the best things I've done in a long time.  It's wonderful to know that there are people who are supporting me, it makes me feel like I can open up and talk about what's going on in my life.

If there is one thing I won't do, it's give up on trying to overcome this addiction.  I refuse to let it consume me.  I'm not a quitter.  
12 years ago 0 161 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hi everyone, I've been reading the thread and thinking about you. Up and down with my goals but mostly steady improvement. Sounds like slow progress for you too. One off day a week is better than five.

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