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Hope, thank you, and congratulations to you for almost reaching a week! I have been having an ongoing discussion with another member named Camiol for several days, in the thread called "New to this Site". We are both right around the one-week mark, and we've been discussing strategies with each other. Why don't you join our thread? It sounds like you might be in a similar situation.
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Hi Turquoise,
 
Conratulations for finishing one week. You must be proud of yourself. My first milestone is also one week and I have 2 days left. Besides not having alcohol at home, what were your strategies keep you motivated?
 
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I kept waking up through the night last night, and every time I did, I was thinking about whether or not I was going to have a hangover in the morning. I didn't drink a drop since Friday, I think I'm just so accustomed to up with a hangover in the mornings, my brain expects it every day.  It feels good to be going to work without feeling crappy, I just hope that the usual bull that goes on doesn't drive me to drink tonight.....fingers crossed.

Congrats for making through another night without alcohol....you're doing great!  Time to get that reward today.
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It's been a week. I really want a drink, but I've managed to stay away from it all day. I'm not sure what's motivating me right now. There's nothing in the house, which is a good thing. I'm hoping it gets easier.
11 years ago 0 11214 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Good for you on 3 days Hitting50!
 
Keeping alcohol out of the house is a good idea. How are you keeping yourself motivated to now buy alcohol?
 
 
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Oh, it's hard right now. It's time for that evening glass of wine, and I'm doing the "just one wouldn't hurt" conversation with myself. There's no alcohol in the house, which is a good thing. Three sober days and counting.
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Actually, I think part of the problem is that I like being a bit out of control. I'm a happy, funny drunk, not a sleepy or obnoxious one. I've rarely done anything to embarrass myself (at least not that I know of, or have ever been told) and I love a good wine buzz. Of course, I often secretly feel guilty/defensive for just a moment when I start that third or fourth glass of wine, because I know what I'm doing to myself, and I know how I will feel later. But I always do it, because it's so good at the time.

That being said, I long ago lost count of the times I've had the "I've got to stop doing this" conversation with myself the next morning. A hundred times? Two hundred? Five hundred? Over ten years worth, at any rate.
11 years ago 0 11214 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Great reasons!
 
One thing that struck me is you sound like a very "in control" person who has everything. This is incredibly positive; yet, with high functioning alcoholics it can be blinding. Also, how does a typically "in control" person feel when they are out of control when it comes to alcohol? How do you feel when you are out of contorl? How do you feel looking back? How would it feel if you were able to gain control of this?
 
From the few posts you have written I can clearly see a number of oyur values - love, family, learning, fun, health, romance. How are you honoring or not honoring these values when you are drinking? When we are not honoring our values we are not living a completely fufilled life. What are your thoughts on this?
 
 

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11 years ago 0 409 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Ashley, these are good questions. I do have a long list of reasons why I like to drink, and I can come up with a lot more. My main reasons for wanting to quit are (1) I can't stop after one or two drinks, no matter what I do. At the time I always find it amusing. (2) I frequently drive after three or four - or five - drinks, because I "handle my alcohol" so well. I'm fairly slender and athletic, so I know that even 3 drinks isn't safe, despite how I feel. I haven't been caught yet, nor have I had an accident, but a lot of that has to be luck. (3) I don't want my kids to grow up thinking it's perfectly normal for a mom to drink as much as I do. My father and grandfather were alcoholics, and I already see compulsive/addictive behaviors in my extremely bright eight-year-old son. (4) I wake up hungover far too often. That part isn't fun. (5) On a side note, I wouldn't mind the additional benefits of losing weight and saving money. Although the "pros" make my life very enjoyable, the "cons" scare the hell out of me. When I'm sober, anyway....
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Welcome Hitting 50!
 
Thanks for your introduction. What is motivating you to quit drinking? I ask this because it sounds like you have a big long list of reasons why you like to drink and very few of why you want to quit. It is important to have a firm understanding of what makes quitting important to you as it appears the pros side of the list have been outweighing your cons; making it more difficult to fully commit. What are your thoughts on this?
 
 
Ashley, Health Educator

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