it is hard when others r critical in a friendship i found that it lowered my self esteem and confidence especially when others outside the relationship were also critical this led to more resentment frustration anxiety and even though i wasnt drinking and had no interest in drinking around this friend the bubble would eventually burst and i would drink it has helped me to admit i was part of the problem and realize that i could only change myself thankfully this forum understands helps educate you and responds positively i hope you can find a friend or family member who understands relates and gives you some positives i have had some success in trying to see the good in others but it does seem at times that u have to fight to b positive
i find some mornings hard to b positive maybe plan for this the nite b4 try to think about something positive someone said about you or you did even positve stuff doesnt feel good sometimes try a list of good things about others and yourself and try to remember some things you worried about but hav dealt with it takes effort to reconcile negative thoughts or criticism especially when they involve others keep trying and good luck
I feel like I'm in such a bad spot in my life right now that its difficult to think positive thoughts. I wonder sometimes if my drinking escalates when I am mentally tormented. I'm in a pretty crappy relationship right now that I'm trying to get out of, but finances are getting in the way of that. I think once I'm in a better spot personally this will get much easier to manage, and when I'm not expected to perform for my partner (100% of the housework and cooking and laundry are my responsibility as well as contributing through working) I will have more time to take care of myself... With more care taken with my own needs I think I'll be in a spot to be more positive with those around me.
On that note I would like to send supportive positive energy to all of the forum visitors today, best of luck in your journeys :) you can do it, and we can all help each other get there.
it does take some effort well worth it though to b positive did anyone hav this situation where u were depressed and it was almost painful to hav others positive around you
i try to say positive and complimentary remarks each day and to ward off negatine thinking i make a list about all the good things i have enjoyed with someone or their good aspects what you said does seem to help thxs
It can be hard to be positive when you are trying to cut back or abstain but positivity breed positivity. The more you activily try to be positive the easier it will become and the better you will feel.
Negativity is draining and damaging to the
individual who is negative and could be damaging to all of those around them.
Negative people tend to project their insecurities on others with gossip,
criticism, and negative remarks. Positive and confident people tend to see the
good in others. They are comfortable pointing out the good qualities of others
and they tend to do it often. This in turn leads to positivity around them and
positivity in how others react to them.So, what’s stopping you from letting others know how you see them? Who
can you authentically complement today? Who do you appreciate and how can you
let them know?
Actually, who can you complement right now on this site? Post your complements here :)
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