He has no intention of changing his life until he absolutely has to. I suspect it will require a heart attack (from the junk food and weight gain), or worse. unfortunately he has been destroyed as a man by a system I have difficulty understanding. 8 years ago (before we met) he had just retired from professional football, he was using a lot of drugs and drinking and there was a suicide attempt and then a bunch of 'mental health care' Through that health care and a successful stint in Rehab for the drug problem he emerged with this new attitude and view on life. He only does what he wants and what he thinks will make him happy and will never ever step outside of his comfort zone to do something for someone else. He is completely self absorbed. Although if you ask him he will tell you he is 'self aware'
What I know is that, for me.. the relationship has been over for a very long time, I just have not moved out yet. I will be looking for a sober living neighbourhood in the GTA, where I can hopefully rent a room or something. Then I will focus heavily on outpatient treatment and group therapy. Through these therapeutic avenues I will hopefully meet others in recovery and make a world of safe healthy friends.
Thank you for your kind words, I look forward to interacting with you and the others on the site.
Welcome to the AHC group. You joined a very supportive online community that, in addition to the help from your local mental health association, will be valuable in your journey through quitting drinking.
It sounds like your living situation is harming your health and well-being. It also sounds like you've contemplated the road ahead and the importance of surrounding yourself with people able to provide you with the support you need. It is not an easy situation to be in, but following what is in your heart will make you that much stronger. Have you talked to your boyfriend about how his attitude affects you? Has there been any willingness on his part to make changes in his own life and to be more supportive of your decisions?
I am going to call the local Addiction Assessment place tomorrow and get an appointment with them, and I hope to start attending regular AA and other group therapy meetings by the end of the week. I'm really not sure how that will go over considering my living situation, but I need to start taking steps in the right direction or I could potentially stay in this cycle of spinning out of control indefinitely
I am a recovered alcoholic and been a sober member of Alcoholics Anonymous. Have you ever attempted the 12 steps of AA. If not that may be the best option for you. Please explore. I have links to AA on my blog and links to workshop on the big book by Joe and Charlie it was a great eye-opener for me when I entered the fellowship 6 years ago.
Hello Group! My name is Jessica and well.. I have a drinking problem like nothing I have ever imagined!
I'm 6 months 8 days free of cigarettes and 8 years free of IV cocaine, but I cannot seem to stop drinking for more than a day or two. I was able to walk away from cigarettes after more than 15 years of smoking and walked away from cocaine while living with a dealer and using for several years. But alcohol has a hold on me that I cannot begin to explain.
Sadly I have been 'that girl' who just cannot wrap her head around addiction treatment because for some reason I have always been able to just walk away from addiction. I think it took me a long time to come to terms with my alcoholism because I had myself convinced that I could walk away from booze anytime I wanted. I'm obviously wrong! Am I alone in this experience? I have never met another person who was so easily able to walk away from dangerous addictions but have such an insane problem with the one 'legal and socially acceptable' substance.
I am ready now to do whatever it takes to kick this. I aim to get support and treatment from a local mental health association. But the first thing I need to do I think is to move from my current housing situation. I'm with my bf of 4 years, he is a recovering cocaine addict (more than 5 years clean) but he drinks often (not as often as me) and his idea of 'supporting' me is to poke fun and laugh at my attempts to better myself. When I quit smoking he had nothing but negative comments for me. He spends his days making me feel small while he lays in bed eating junkfood and smoking weed and cigarettes. I really think my living situation is very very toxic and will not help in my recovery. I think I need to get out, get single, spend some time alone concentrating on my needs and my recovery, and surrounding myself with others who are in recovery and therefore more able to support me in my new lifestyle.
Can anyone offer any insight into my situation? Any and all thoughts/suggestions welcomed and appreciated.
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