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13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 557

Good morning Mike,

My vision of a slip now is that if the next day I get back on track, well I did not start drinking again and I can continue. You said you had 3 glasses, I know it is no excuse but it does not seem that you were dead drunk and embarrasing people around.

I can understand your wife. My children have been mad at me once they were old enough to undestand their mother was a drunk and then they would see me having a first glass and treat me like a drunk, It was hard, very hard. Not only for me but for them especially.

You seem very motivated to continue on the road of sobriety. Keep coming and post often.

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1562

Hope I don't come out negative. When you say were in AA, did you embrace the program of AA? There are many people who just get caught up in going to meetings. Sometimes even 2 or 3 meetings a day but never picked the book called Alcoholics Anonymous. Never attempted to work the program. Our book says, what we have is a daily reprieve contingent upon we being spiritually fit. It takes 11 steps to reach there and then continued working of 10, 11 and 12 every day is when we stay spiritually fit. Hope i am not overloading you with fact. But hang in there.

A friend of mine called couple of days ago. I slipped couple of months ago, 2 duis with a car wreck. Same reason. Drifted away from the program and meetings. Slowly the spiritual malady kicked back in and then he went out. And in deep trouble now.

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 10

Ashley,

Thanks for your support, this has been the hardest week I have went through in a long time.

Not the alcohol, The loss of not having a family to go home to. I just hope and pray that I

will never fall prey to the alcohol demon again....

I talked to my Son and his new wife the day after the wedding and explained everything to them

including how I felt about my drinking.

They didn't know I was drinking, They thought I was just having a good time, which I was.

My son is on his honeymoon so I don't want to bother him. and communication with my

wife is slow.

Thanks for people like you to communicate with makes this process much more bearable

so thanks for your support, help.understanding.

THANKS SO MUCH

Mike61

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 11214

Mike,

I am so sorry to hear this. I can hear that you are really disappointed. Please try not to be too hard on yourself. Sometimes slips happen. This doesn't take away from the incredible success of being four years sober. The important thing is that you do not let this discourage you from staying sober. Also, try to look at this as a learning experience. What will you be taking away from this?

Mike, I know you are hurting now but please know you are an incredibly strong individual who accomplished a four year + quit. You clearly care deeply about your family and they are lucky to have you. I am glad you talked to your son about this, have you encouraged him to talk to you about his feelings around this? I encourage you to be open in communicating with all family members. You need support right now and they need to know that your determination is not diminished.

Know that we are here to listen,

Ashley, Health Educator

Here to help :)

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 10

Thanks, Tallone I appreciate your response. I did attend AA for a number of years

and thanks to them and my family I was able to accomplish sobriety for 4 years.

This was just a terrible setback in my life, like you said live in the momment and move forward

and never pick up that first drink.

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 50

Hey Mike:

Well welcome back friend! Slips happen. It happened to me too when my sobriety was not my priority. And I did it at a wedding as well. I was Best Man and had to make a toast with Champagne. Had 6 years clean and from that night on, sixteen more years downhill. I wasn't done with my drinking yet it appears. I can so relate.

I live in the moment today, on life's terms, not mine. AA has really helped me. I apply its' simple principles to my life whenever and wherever I can. You didn't mention being involved with AA but you mentioned you had 4 years of sobriety.

That, in and of itself, is an amazing accomplishment.

Okay, so now we're on day one and we're feeling those horrid feelings of resentment and fear. Brother, I can promise you it gets so much better from here on out if you just don't pick up that first drink. I recommend a plan of recovery, a living plan of recovery, albeit a simple one. We're in this boat together, Brother.

Think about hitting an AA meeting asap (like today) in your vicinity.

All I can suggest is what is working for me, so please keep coming back.

Hang in ther, Bro.

Tallone

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 10

After 4 years of sobriety it seems all was lost last Saturday when my son was married.
I celebrated my only sons weddings with three glasses of wine.
Along with the medications I take it added to the effects of the alcohol.

This was the biggest mistake of my life and I feel terrible, and worse each day. My wife was so upset and

I understand her feelings with my actions. She told me to move out for a while because I was going to
drive that night also, until she took the keys. I apologized to my son about my actions that day and how

I felt about the situation. I need some guidance

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