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14 years ago 0 955 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Kelly,
 
You have showed amazing insight throughout this post. Understanding your own triggers and cravings is incredibly important in making this journey successful for you. In addition, knowing that this recovery can sometimes be a lengthy process is key. There may be immediate results and other times it may be weeks before you are able to go a day without thinking about drinking. However, you have an incredible attitude and your motivation to change will help you succeed.
 
You should be very proud of yourself and the progress you have made thus far. At this point, you may begin to view yourself differently as a sober person. Your habits and day-to-day activities may also change. Start to think about how you can integrate your new identify into your lifestyle. What will change for you? What will you take away from this?
 
Keep us posted on how you are doing. We would love to share in all of your achievements!
 
 
Sarah, Health Educator
14 years ago 0 65 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hey everyone especially Dodds (I made a post asking if you were ok since we didn't hear back from you, glad to know you are still here). AA was a great step in the right direction. I did have a slip when I had some VERY unpleasant things to deal with with a disgruntled ex boyfriend and his over protective mother. It was so very stressful that I instantly reached for the bottle out of habit. I was shaking and felt like throwing up and knew the quick fix would be a drink or two. Interestingly though during unpacking I found the big blue AA book. I know where my triggers are and I know what sets me off. i continue to go to AA and not hold it against myself that I slipped cause after all 1 day of drinking is progress compared to 7 days a week so I'll keep at it.  It's not gonna take 1 or 2 or 3 weeks to fix what I've had as a habit for almost 20 years. Talking to other women like me at women;s AA really helps.  I put my BF to bed tonight who was completely hammered and thought " is this what I'm like?, this is really ugly". He's a very nice person as most of us drunks are before we get to drinking. He just drank far too much and couldn't understand that it was time for him to go to bed but kept coming out of the bedroom confused and trying to drink more. He'll have a terrible hangover tomorrow and most likely won't remember that I wrestled him into bed kicking and screaming pouring his drink down the drain.  I'm going to bed sober, reading a book and waking up without a headache. Again, even though I slipped I am happy with my progress and will continue to build on it.
14 years ago 0 17 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
I'm sorry i didn't see this thread before...congratulations kelly! Store the relief and gratitude, you will need it later on. Good for you for taking action in this fight. Faith without work is dead. Hope you continue your journey. Let us know how you are doing.
14 years ago 0 151 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hi Kelly
 
I am so happy for you and so proud that you went to the meeting. Welcome to new opportunities.
 
I want to point out one thing with AA. Listen extra careful to those that slipped and came back. There is a wealth of information there. Also please notice those that do fall and come back are not looked down upon - they are picked up and welcomed back. I hope you stay, but in the event you leave please remember that you are always welcome in AA!
 
Rick H
 
 

14 years ago 0 65 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Thanks for the support and encouragement everyone. I know it's gonna be a long tough road but compared to how I've been living for the past 4 years many things will be much easier. My goal is to stay focused on what I will gain by staying sober. The most important thing I was reminded of at the meeting was "One day at a time" I just need to focus on staying sober today not 10 years from now.

 I've been sleeping a ton which is what my body needs right now and drinking lots of water. I didn't throw up today for the first time in a long time. Again, I know that staying sober won't always be easier but staying drunk all the time was a chore. I'd gotten to the point where I was bring alcohol with me everywhere I went. Drinking in public bathrooms  and parks- so undignified. Lying about how much I had to drink and basically addicted to gravol as well because of the hangovers. It's a miracle I got anything done in that state. Pretty meaningless exsistance to drag myself through life in a fog/ coma. 

If/ when I overcome this it will be the greatest accomplishment  of my life. I can't wait to get to the point where I can help others and be an inspiration to someone else who is feeling as hopeless as I have. 
14 years ago 0 1693 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Right on Kelly
It is so great to hear that you were able to go to AA...after 3 days sober! What an incredible accomplishment. You should feel extremely proud of yourself.
You have so much support, both at AA and here on the forums. We are all here to help and support you every step of the way.
Hang in there, and please keep us posted on how you're doing.
 
Breanne, Bilingual Health Educator
14 years ago 0 1562 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
great job. for the first 4 months i would go to the meetings and still be miserable. Restless, irritable and discontent. As the fog lifted, i realized, i need to get a sponsor and work thru the steps and only then, i will get all the promises that are littered in the book of AA. hopefully you will find a compatible person in the rooms and help you attain a spiritual awakening and continued bliss.
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dear Kelly,
welcome to the rest of you life. Of course you have made one giant leap for youself. Well done and keep up the good work. I was one bad case and did most of what you wrote in your last post, and worse. I myself made the choice to quit and for a few days I did go through hell. The worst is over.I realise why I started in the first place,too many bad memiries I wanted to forget, but it does not work that way , in fact it just makes them worse. You have made the first and most important step by going to AA. When you walk in to the meeting hold your head way up high , because you are making yourself stronger and there is no need to be embarresed. You have proven to yourself that you are the one in control of drink and not the other way around.You can do it, well if I could anyone can . you are a fighter and will win if you want to. I belive you can :-) go for gold.
Cobra ( my nick)
14 years ago 0 65 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
I finally made it to AA after 3 days sober suffering through particularly nasty withdrawal. I found a women only group which made me much, much more comfortable. I don't dislike men in the least I just had a bad experience once at an AA meeting regarding a man. I felt I could open up to the women more easily. My father is a hardened alcoholic so I believe it made also be an emotional barrier for me to be at meetings with men. For now anyway. It was a really positive experience and I am glad that I connected with some people who understand what I am going through. I have contact numbers now for when the cravings return, which I am certain they will. I am looking for my next meeting for tomorrow.

This site and the members on it have really helped me to get to that 1st meeting in 4 years. It really helped having some encouragement and information. I may have not been ready when I first joined but obviously part of me was willing to try.

I may not be thrilled about the prospect of not being able to drink at a party or the beach or a dinner date but the reality is for me that it almost never ends up the way I imagine it will. 99% of the time it ends up with me doing something stupid, injuring myself ( I always have bruises from walking into tables and such), going missing which scares my loved ones, loosing stuff all the time, and being sick all the time. I think I've proven to myself that I will never be a normal drinker and I have plenty of evidence to back that up. 

For those of you waiting to go to that first meeting I urge you to go and if you don't like the group try another one. 

I'm pretty excited about the thought of waking up tomorrow without a hangover and not having to do damage control.

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