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19 years ago 0 +0 / -0 13

I feel the same way about sex. I feel like, my husband wants IT all the time and I NEVER want it. Then, I feel guilty and give in. But I feel guilty about giving in, when I know I didn't want to in the first place! My husband usually is giving me "the look" and I'm thinking, oh brother, again? It makes me NOT want to have sex at all, when he does these things, yet when I tell him about how it makes me feel, he thinks that I just need to want IT more, or go find some pills to take to make me want IT more. SHEESH! It makes me mad, guilty, anxious, etc. and I'm not even on medication. Plus, I don't want to get on medication. What's a woman to do? Melody

19 years ago 0 +0 / -0 74

I was pleasantly surprised to find that once I was adjusted to my medication, it did not decrease my sex drive. In fact, I think it helped because it decreased my anxiety. For some, it can decrease it, but I do think it's better to function than worry about sex drive. I do think that concentrating on intimacy can help. Not always but sometimes. My hubby is very good about the times when I just want to cuddle. A nice massage is good. If your husband is ok with just doing things together knowing it will NOT lead to sex, that can actually help in the long run to occasionally lead to sex.

19 years ago 0 +0 / -0 243

Medication isn't a cure, but it definitely helps...and ask your doctor what he/she would recommend as some medication is better than others in regards to decrease in sex drive...I hope this helps...hang in there...you will be fine...let me know how you are doing... Take care, B

19 years ago 0 +0 / -0 90

not right now, but I think I'm on the threshold of it. I'm seeing my doctor on Monday. I'm really concerned that medication will only make my lack of desire worse. But isn't daily sanity worth it?

19 years ago 0 +0 / -0 243

I am taking Zoloft and Klonopin -- honestly, most of the time I really am not interested in sex...I am not sure what to do -- I have already talked to my husband about how I feel and he thinks I should put more effort into intimacy...but it's so difficult when you feel anxious -- Are you taking medication?

19 years ago 0 +0 / -0 90

It's hard to make an effort when you whole mental world is falling apart. I feel like I'm really disappointing him. What kind of medication are you on?

19 years ago 0 +0 / -0 243

I know how you feel....when I have my bad days I also don;t have any interest in sex...perhaps its the medication, the anxiety, and tiredness -- and my husband says the same thing that I am not attracted to him anymore...I try to make an effort, but sometimes I can't...try talking to your husband about how you feel -- I tried this and my husband sort of understood...

19 years ago 0 +0 / -0 90

I feel horrible for my husband who always is feeling like I'm not interested in him. I'm not interested when I'm having bad days of course and when I'm having a good day I'm bracing for the bad days. I feel horribly guilty that I've let this affect our marriage to such a degree. Who feels like doing anything when you have one (imagined) health crisis after another. Does anyone have any advice about what to do in this situation?

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