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Negative core beliefs ? Part III


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I feel I am a bit of both I really couldn't classify myself as one or the other.  I want to make others happy but at the same time I have a very high need to be independent,productive etc etc.  I am very conflicted at times between the two. This leads to a lot of inner conflict for me and avoidance type behaviors....  It also causes me problems with my quit.  Nicotine makes me feel less and SSRI are not a option for me. They make me feel nothing and therefore it is impossible for me to learn to deal with these inner conflicts and face my issues.   This is just my take on it.  I agree Negative core beliefs can cause a lot of inner turmoil and problems in a persons life.
 
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Members,

In general, there are three types of negative core beliefs:

- Negative Core Beliefs about Yourself
- Negative Core Beliefs about the World and Others
- Negative Core Beliefs about the Future

All negative core beliefs can cause problems. Theories also suggest that certain dispositions and certain life events will affect people differently. There are two categories:

- Sociotropic: concerned about relationships, concerned of the possibility of disapproval, ones sense of self- worth is based on acceptance & love from others, wants to maintain close relationships & worries about being unlovable.
 
- Autonomous: have a high need to be independent and reach goals outside the relationship, sense of self worth is based on productivity, achievement and control, overly concerned with the possibility of failure & worried about being incompetent or unable.

According to theories such as by Beck, the matching between dispositions and life events could affect the severity of impact the life event will have on the individual. 

For instance, a sociotropic is more likely to be negatively affected by a break-up whereas an autonomous by being fired from his/her job.

Which category do you fall into?

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