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14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 355

Tennielle - welcome back and thanks for being so honest in your post. I can say that SSC helped me tremendously in working through the emotional aspects of smoking and quitting. And it's not about being strong or weak. We all have our strengths and we all have our weaknesses - even those who don't smoke. Most of us here were terrified, doubtful, non-believers in our own ability. But intelligence and self-worth trumps all of that. You can do this. You just have to want it badly enough. And you have to believe that you are worth it.

I can say that the primary thing that helped me through to a point where I could help myself, was the support of this group of strangers and friends who actually care about your success. It really does help to come here and rant, rave, cry, laugh, and just generally let it all hang out. Make this your addiction/replacement at least until you can stand on your own. Everytime you have a craving and even when you don't, post.

Everyone here is rooting for you!

Angie

My Milage:

My Quit Date: 12/30/2008
Smoke-Free Days: 259
Cigarettes Not Smoked: 3,108
Amount Saved: $1,367.52
Life Gained:
Days: 23 Hrs: 4 Mins: 30 Seconds: 10

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 11213

Tennielle,

Thank you for your quick reply. I am glad those questions got you thinking and I would really love to hear your response. On a personal note, I have gone back to school for life coaching. It is so amazing how asking questions can naturally bring you to conclusions that are more in line with your values.

Also, you say you are afraid of tears. In what way? I would like to hear more. If it does relate to tears from failing know that failing is a natural part of life. In fact, the more failure you have in the life generally the more success you have as well because the more times we try new things the more times we will fail. I don't know why in our society fail has become a four letter word. We should celebrate failure because the more times we fail the more we will learn. Think about it, what if when your children started walking and fell they just gave up because they were to fall (or fail) again. See, the only way we grow is through failing.

Keep posting!

Ashley, Health Educator

Here to help :)

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1904

Welcome back Tennielle.

My Milage:

My Quit Date: 5/1/2009
Smoke-Free Days: 137
Cigarettes Not Smoked: 3,836
Amount Saved: $1,486.45
Life Gained:
Days: 15 Hrs: 0 Mins: 19 Seconds: 59

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 32

Sorry my milage was off....didn't reset everythin before I posted. Ashley thank you....I'm going to give some serious thought to those questions and get back to you....Don't know why but reading your reply brought tears to my eyes. I can answer part of that last question though....what am I afraid of? Tears.

Tennielle

My Milage:

My Quit Date: 9/15/2009
Smoke-Free Days: 0
Cigarettes Not Smoked: 0
Amount Saved: $0.00
Life Gained:
Days: 0 Hrs: 1 Mins: 9 Seconds: 27

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 11213

Tenielle,

When I was reading this I was thinking what a strong articulate woman this is. In no way are you weak! You just have not made quitting a top priority. You have been wrapped up in your busy life and you simply have not been ready. Please do not say he might be right; because it is simply not true.

Ok from there. It seems to be your dogs life has begun to become some sort of a metaphor for you. It is funny how the mind works isn't it? So if it was the case; if you were to become sick when you were older. What do you think that sick you would say to the you of today? What do you think your children of the future would say to you? And more importantly how do you think you will feel when you do quit? Please really think about these questions and I would love to read what you come up with.

You are very brave to set a quit date now. Congratulations for jumping into it! Now we just need to insure that your motivation is up where it should be. Start with the above questions. Another important question I would like to know the answer to. What are you afraid of exactly. Please expand.

Ashley, Health Educator

Here to help :)

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 32

Well I haven't been around here since May and I suppose I should reintroduce myself. I am 32, female, and a smoker for 15 years. I started late, but have struggled with quitting since my 3rd year into this trap. I've ridden a roller coaster and tried every method out there short of accupunture (I hate needles). I've wasted a lot of time and money on smoking and failed quit attempts.

This last attempt ended abruptly when my lovely (now 11 years old) Husky was diagnosed with auto immune lupus. It's been a rough summer dealing with my girls (10 and 7) and preparing them to the fact that Silver is going to die. She has been stable on her prednisone all summer, until this last week when she got a small cut in her gums that bleed profusely. Did blood tests and seems her liver is also shot. So well even though a few big bowls of ice water staunched the bleeding long enough for that to heal, with her liver it is only a matter of time. On the other hand the dog acts as if nothing is wrong is still her happy exuberant self.

So well to concentrate on me and quitting smoking has not really been an option with the dog, soccer, pharm tech classes, working full time and all the other stuff summer brings....

This last week though just having to really look at the true reality that our dog, who really truly has become a part of family, is going to die...then a having to explain it to my children and prepare them for that....made me realize that well me smoking is only set myself up for another such confrontation.

Sure they'll be older, but it won't be any easier to look at them and tell them that mommy is going to die because she couldn't quit smoking. And the indecision (actually total lack of decision) on my husbands part of what to do about the dog doesn't show me I'll have much help in that process when my addiction finally catches up with me.

He told me just last night that the reason I don't quit is because I am weak...I don't believe I am weak, but perhaps to a small extent he is right. Because to quit smoking obviously requires more strength than I have.

So here's where I'm at....I am 90% committed to quit smoking and I'm afraid that may be as close as I get. I've been preparing for this since the beginning of August. I don't think I could be anymore ready than I am now. If I wait any longer it's just gonna turn into another one of those things I'm gonna do tomorrow....and tomorrow never comes. So starting today at this hour I'll be smoke free. Will it last? I'm not very confident. There is a tremendous amount of fear in this decision. I'm going to give it all I have regardless.

Tennielle

My Milage:

My Quit Date: 7/3/2009
Smoke-Free Days: 74
Cigarettes Not Smoked: 1,480
Amount Saved: $370.00
Life Gained:
Days: 5 Hrs: 19 Mins: 31 Seconds: 27

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