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16 years ago 0 579 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hi anxioux1, I am sorry to hear that your other half is not being supportive. It is not unusual for smokers to feel quite threatened and even hostile towards quitters. There have been examples of smokers trying to jeapordise quits e.g. by starting arguments, and trying to get the other person to crack....I am not suggesting your hubby would do this...but he may well feel a bit undermined (how can she do it, and I'm still smoking?). You are going to have to rise above any of his jibes, and come and scream at us....that would be the best thing. ;) Can you get a little time for yourself to go for a good 20 or 30 minute fast walk or some other exercise. It really helps to destress and get rid of some of those angry feelings. You could kick a few rocks on the way too. Lizzie :) [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]4/23/2003 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 1744 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 26,160 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] �6,540.00 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 179 [B]Hrs:[/B] 10 [B]Mins:[/B] 34 [B]Seconds:[/B] 22
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    $8,877.00

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16 years ago 0 967 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Frying pans, rocks...I may end up in prison. ( But thinking about it sure helps). I do take the b's and they do help. This started out as a good day until he started coming down on me first thing. I am not going to let him get to me anymore today. You have all brought me up higher...thanks :) [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]12/6/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 56 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,680 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $210.00 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 4 [B]Hrs:[/B] 14 [B]Mins:[/B] 23 [B]Seconds:[/B] 32
16 years ago 0 3541 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Boys are stupid. Throw rocks at them. Whatever you're doing has worked for this long & it will continue to work, so don't listen to anyone else's idea of how it "should" be. You're doing fine, anxioux, just keep it up. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]5/14/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 262 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 5,240 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $2,882.00 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 27 [B]Hrs:[/B] 0 [B]Mins:[/B] 4 [B]Seconds:[/B] 24
16 years ago 0 3875 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Anxiuox1, if you're having some 'sad' times. try vitamin B complex. I kept having the blues drag me down and I took that, plus vitamin b12 on some days, and it does help! :) [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]3/5/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 332 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 8,300 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $3,502.60 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 43 [B]Hrs:[/B] 14 [B]Mins:[/B] 33 [B]Seconds:[/B] 8
16 years ago 0 1155 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Anxioux1 - Perhaps your husband is jealous not just of you talking with other people (e.g. you said he'd be mad you were on this site), but he's also jealous of your quit. No smoker [i]likes[/i] being a smoker - every smoker wishes/wants to quit. Now you've quit but he hasn't been able to. So maybe this is adding to his being "down on" you & not understanding of your struggle. When you feel stressed and experience urges/cravings, look at your quit meter. You have said [color=red]NO![/color] 1,680 times. You've made it through 56 days. So, you CAN say [color=red]NO![/color] for the 1,681st time and you CAN make it to day 57. We're all here supporting you & celebrating each moment you are smokefree! [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]2/24/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 341 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 11,935 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $2,216.50 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 29 [B]Hrs:[/B] 1 [B]Mins:[/B] 24 [B]Seconds:[/B] 56
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16 years ago 0 967 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
I am so glad somebody understands..and all prayers are welcome. I can see each day how much I need these posts to get through. You are all so kind. Thanks so much. :| [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]12/6/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 56 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,680 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $210.00 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 4 [B]Hrs:[/B] 14 [B]Mins:[/B] 17 [B]Seconds:[/B] 0
16 years ago 0 948 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Anxioux1 I know exactly how you feel. My husband who has never smoked in his life, was trying to tell me that after 2 months things should be better, shouldn't they? Well let me tell you, it took me 6 months or so to finally start to feel like me again. It is different for each of us. No-one told me when I had kids that it would be a struggle at times, no-one told me when I started smoking some 30 years ago that it would be this hard to quit, I would never have started. But now that we are trying to change things to better ourselves, they need to understand that this is LIFE-CHANGING and its not going to be all roses. I hope it gets better for you. And I really hope you feel better. My prayers will be with you. You are doing great, hang in there and don't forget to reward yourself. Those are so important, even if its just a nice warm bath. The rewards matter. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]3/1/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 336 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 8,400 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1,680.00 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 36 [B]Hrs:[/B] 16 [B]Mins:[/B] 57 [B]Seconds:[/B] 56
16 years ago 0 967 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Thanks, I really need somebody to talk to at times. My worst urges come when I am under "sad" stress. I keep apologizing and trying to do better...I am so glad I have all of you out there. I to sometimes tell myself get a grip already!! But, like Lainey said, it is different for everybody and I have had a really difficult time. Maybe that frying pan isn't such a bad idea...I just wish I had a cast iron ones, I have the cheap tin ones, don't think thant would do much good!! :| [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]12/6/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 56 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,680 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $210.00 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 4 [B]Hrs:[/B] 14 [B]Mins:[/B] 15 [B]Seconds:[/B] 44
16 years ago 0 220 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
I didn't want to be the first to respond to your post because I feel there are others with way more wisdom and great advice to offer you than I could at this point in my quit. That being said, I feel like I can understand what you're feeling. Yes, we have changed. In so many ways. But I think that what hubby needs to understand is that what he probably perceives as negative is actually something of a positive major life change. A shift. A new way of life. For me, its been a whole new way, something I am learning on a day to day basis. I am changing. And adapting and I really have no clue how to do this and sometimes its been really difficult and I've been cranky and sad and irritable. So what! I am told over and over again that it will get better. I am counting on that! Hubby needs to grow up and learn some patience! Good luck to you (and me) We can and are doing this. Its so hard but so worth it! Now I'll let someone with more time give you something a little more helpful! :) Faith [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]12/23/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 39 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 975 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $468.00 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 4 [B]Hrs:[/B] 11 [B]Mins:[/B] 34 [B]Seconds:[/B] 56
16 years ago 0 3875 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Well, tell Hubby it's not so cut and dry! You smoked for how many years??? It takes a bit of time to get over an addiction, and is not something done overnight, it is a process, longer for some than for others. Tell him when he quits, he can determine how long it should take....( lol, or there's always the skillet!) It is a personal thing, some get through it quicker than others. :) [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]3/5/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 332 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 8,300 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $3,502.60 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 43 [B]Hrs:[/B] 14 [B]Mins:[/B] 23 [B]Seconds:[/B] 8

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