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Redface, as hard as it may be it will probably help you to find out why he said no. Maybe you could speak with his wife, or get your husband to ask. Otherwise you will eat yourself up wondering why. Also, you musnt take this personally. There could be a number of reasons why he said no and its really important that you dont allow this to knock your self-confidence. I agree that what he said to you sounds really cold and would have been hurtful for you, but remember that its not your fault and that in the end its his loss not yours.
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I have just had a horrible experience. Now I don't want to catastrophize the situation, however, I thought my husband and I were friends with this other couple, however I often blush in the presence of the husband. I have been telling him about my therapy on this site, and he seemed supportive. However, today when I asked if we could spend some time together socializing as two couples, he said straight blank "no". Here are two people who have acted as if we were friends for four years, and now after facing my fears of becoming friends with someone here, where we live, I got a straight blank "no" for an answer. I feel terribly hurt, upset, and feel like taking all my meds. I have tried to face up to my fears, but today, it backfired. I just want to die. I was not given any reason why, just shoved off. I have to deal with this person on a weekly basis, and I don't know how to continue from here. Any suggestions?

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