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Hi Julianne, Julieanne you need the help of a health care professional ASAP. Please talk to your school nurse or counsellor or a teacher you trust, even if it's a teacher from last year or the year before. A lot of teachers know about these kinds of anxiety problems and there are solutions to these problems. For example, sometimes kids are encouraged to spend at least part of the day at school but in a place that they feel relatively "safe" for example, the library or an empty classroom. Take the anxiety test and share the results with a teacher , counsellor or health care professional that you trust . Someone will help you but you have to reach out first.
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Well I lied to my mother again so that I wouldn't have to go to school.Some days I just can't take it and I know that if I go then i'll just flip ouy and have to go home or down to the nurse anyway.Its weird though!My boyfriend has been taking me to the mall every friday so that I have some type of contact with people outside of school.The first time I started to cry and shake and had to leave certin stores right away.Then I did it again but I was better and that made me really proud.I just don't know why I cant do that with school.I mean I have to go there everyday so why am I not better with it yet?
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I wish I could say the abuser is not abusing anymore but, reality is the person is still abusing. All I can do, is forgive the person. As much as the abuser abused me. There are so many wishes an abused victim would like not to happened. But, I forgot.. I need to forgive myself. That is the most important thing. Even that is hard. All I the positives that I am telling myself right now is that I survived. I survived my whole life with abusers. I know that I am gaulable to people. That is my downfall. I am going stop there, cuz I am going to have a panic attack just typing this. Thank you for the reply.. Foa
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Hi- I think telling him/her to stop cusing is actually a really big step. The potty mouth is the one who fills the air with absent minded words that really don't say much. By you standing your ground in such an seemingly gentle request is just the begining to actually discussing what is wrong in an effective way. I think you feel like you are running away because maybe you feel like you could make a difference for the other person as well. Perhaps you still care for the abuser, not to say you need a future with that person, but hope the best for him/her and that they won't continue to abuse others. Foa, making changes is hard, believe me, I've thought about moving and starting all over one to many times. The only problem is that I feel the need to make roots and I think I'm ready. . . I hope. Think of a good tomorrow, the past is a lesson of what life is capable of, we can determine our path if we choose to think of one.
21 years ago 0 29 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hi Kingsford, I ran away from everything. Just to be able to feel safe. I have been running from this one. My last encounter was 2 weeks ago when I stood up for myself only to tell the abuser that not to use profanity to me. I am having a hard in letting go. I have decided to forgive what had happened. I am a survivor and I survived. It is the forgetting that hits me in the face. It pops up in my mind everyday. And panic has its way. Thanks for replying. I needed to see what you wrote. I have a lot of baby stepping to do.. Thanks Foa :)
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Hi Foa, I understand how hard it is to truely let go. I struggle with my willingness to forgive and move on, it makes perfect sense in my head but for some reason my feelings won't let go. For starters, winter, grants us the absence of the suns natural ability to induce seretonin (?), making those of us who carry sadness all the more exposed to depression or panic. Currently, I'm frozen in my fear of meeting my biological father, I heard his voice for the first time last week and plan to meet him in hopes to figure out the other half of myself. I'm 28. Have you ever confronted the person that abused you in a calm way? If not, do you think stating why you left would justify within yourself that you are not running away but standing up for what you believe is right?
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Hi, I recently had a major setback. I was going through abuse mentally, emotionally, and verabally. I got out of the situation. And now it is getting to me. I have been having panic attacks when my mind thinks about it. I really haven't dealt with it. I am having panics and I want to let it go. That is the hardest part is letting go. I know it is eating me some way or another. When I look back, I see how far I have come. I survived and am a survivor. I have been having a hard time lately. I guess, you could say I ran away from the whole ordeal. I am safe. I try so hard but, somehow things just keep coming mostly panic. I try to stop it and say positive but, it's not helping. I think I reinforcement on what to do.. Thanks for listening... Foa

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