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18 years ago 0 506 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Oh, btw, RD man- congrats on your 70 days. Right behind ya! :eg: [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 2/18/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 69 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 2,777 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $621 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 11 [B]Hrs:[/B] 9 [B]Mins:[/B] 49 [B]Seconds:[/B] 12
18 years ago 0 852 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hello Harrow, First, let me say that I have had my quit "easier" as some would put it. I did not start out with any intention of remaining smoke-free. I found this site on day 2, and posted. I admitted that I only did this because my husband really wanted to, and I quit to help him quit. However, I never thought my hubby would actually get through day 1. He did. I also admitted that if he lost his quit, I would too. However, something happened within day 3-5. Something clicked in my head. Instead of being in the "I wish I could have one more...., Just one puff and then......, oooohhhh why cant I have one......, I'm weak..., I'm stupid for starting...., etc, etc, etc...." phase, I told myself I have to be positive. I am big on self-talk. I drilled it into my head that I do not smoke. I do not want one. There is no room in my big head for negative thinking. I simply do not have the time or energy for negativity. I tell myself 1 reason, almost daily, of a benefit that I have expierenced by no longer smoking. The more I consentrate on a normalcy of life, the less smoking, and not smoking, enters my mind. Wierd, that I spend a lot of time here. Reading, and posting. But once I am off the computer, smoking does not enter my brain. I choose one task, every other day, to tackle my triggers. By accomplishing one trigger at a time, and staying calm, knowing it is just a trigger, not a crave, makes it do-able. I still have my emotional days, but they are mostly due to stress. I quickly recover. One foot in front of the other, as Lady says. With my head held high, and positive thoughts, I can now see the light. One day at a time still. Each day brings me closer to where I want to be, and farther from where I was. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 3/5/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 55 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,665 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $179.85 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 4 [B]Hrs:[/B] 11 [B]Mins:[/B] 13 [B]Seconds:[/B] 27
18 years ago 0 34 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hello Harrow. I totally agree with you. Quitting is definitely not easy and I do think we make it much harder than it is suppose to be. Humans always want something they can't have. With that mentality applied to smoking, we feel that we can't have something when we quit. Our thinking has to change. We need to say we choose not to want one. We can have one if we want to but we CHOOSE not to have it. No one is ever going to force me to smoke and it is available if I ever decide I want to smoke. Thinking positively and putting the decision making power in your own hands instead of blaming it on nicotine makes quitting a lot easier. You have control over yourself. Nicotine does not control you. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 2/28/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 59 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 595 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $147.5 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 4 [B]Hrs:[/B] 5 [B]Mins:[/B] 44 [B]Seconds:[/B] 9
18 years ago 0 2614 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
There is a place where positive thinking can lead to wishful thinking and I think that is where the addict like me can get into a whole mess of trouble. The determination and proactivity that are involved in maintaining a successful quit are for me the most important elements. There have been periods of time when I have beeen so low and so very emotional that I have had a hard time simply switching my mind over to a positive thought. That is where I know that for me I must lead myself firmly away from the temptation, the distressful thoughts and absolutely proactively do whatever it will take for me not to have a cigarette. Reward and self trust are sometimes as hard for me to muster as constantly working to think that by thinking positively I will be making this more difficult or less difficult. For me this quit is one of the most challenging and yes difficult things that I have ever done. It is very often a white knuckle ride and I know that I must always be patting myself on the back, cheering myself on and trusting that what I am doing is extending my life and adding to the quality and pleasure of my existence, my self image and respect and my body. Difficult or easy this quitting smoking is absolutely a challenge and a life long commitment. We get to choose if we will live in misery and want or if we will live in joy and richness. Thanks for posting. Phillip [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 2/17/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 69 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,398 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $517.5 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 11 [B]Hrs:[/B] 9 [B]Mins:[/B] 33 [B]Seconds:[/B] 19
18 years ago 0 208 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Ahh, the bliss of the first 5 days.. I have to say that the initial quit was bad, but the harder part for me is the ongoing issues with depression, hunger, "the fog", etc. Quitting is the first part of this, but then there is the life changing part. I find this part more difficult because it goes on and on and on. I am a very driven and successful person. I have had cigarettes as part of every day and every habit of my life for 27 years. I find it very difficult to keep up my feverish pace without smoking. I feel like I have to relearn everything and due to lack of nicotine and my crutch, my motivation is low. Quitting is uncomfortable, living with NOPE is long term WORK as you become aware of the lack of dopamine that you must live with for a period, and what appears to be quite a long period. I don't think this is easy, because I must change how I do everything day to day. The effects of a stimulant on the brain, for me, are very noticeable. I have faith that my body will eventually adjust and make up for what it now lacks. Positive thinking is great when you are not struggling with physical depression and lonliness. As strange as it sounds, I feel like I have lost my best friend. As I move through the throws of the "blahs", it is soley my commitment to quit that keeps me going. I have to live with the fact that my performance is down in just about every aspect of my life. If some people are lucky enough not to experience this, then I would think this would be "easy". But for the rest of us, it is hard. I inhaled my first cigarette at 9 years old and started smoking a pack a day at 15. So my struggles may be related to the fact that I've never been an adult who didn't smoke..either that or I'm just a nut case ;-) [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 2/5/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 83 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 2,505 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $581 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 8 [B]Hrs:[/B] 3 [B]Mins:[/B] 12 [B]Seconds:[/B] 5
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Hiya Harrow, Early on, I wasn't nearly as positive as I am now but I fought my depression with exercise, humor and positive mantras. It has taken me some time to build up my own libary of coping strategies to deal with the emotion/stress smoking supressed. However, looking back I now realize I could have made the first part of my quit even easier if I had been willing to adopt new coping strategies AND implement rewards 'more quickly.' Also, studies indicate that individuals who create positive mental pictures of the outcome of their self-help efforts actually change faster and the improvements last longer. [color=blue][font=Tahoma]All the best~[/color] [img]http://img291.imageshack.us/img291/6922/n3us.gif[/img][size=3][color=blue]2[/color][/size][img]http://img133.imageshack.us/img133/2344/k6ob.gif[/img][/color] [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 8/20/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 252 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 5,557 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1260 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 23 [B]Hrs:[/B] 23 [B]Mins:[/B] 23 [B]Seconds:[/B] 7
18 years ago 0 2462 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Harrow, I think you are onto a great key to successfully quitting. It has to do with positive thinking -- thinking about the benefits, thinking about the reasons why, thinking about your plan. I do believe that if we dwell on the negatives and feel deprived and angry and resentful, it is going to be way more difficult. I'm certainly not saying that I had the ideal quit -- I'm a lot smarter now though! Rusty :) [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 12/13/2004 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 500 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 14,022 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1750 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 68 [B]Hrs:[/B] 21 [B]Mins:[/B] 23 [B]Seconds:[/B] 34
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18 years ago 0 763 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Harrow....you are absolutely right on in your thinking. when quitting gets hard is when you let the addiction take control of your thinking.....it will whine and feel sorry for itself..it will whail that nothing is as bad as going without nicotine....it will try to convince you that life will never again be fun, relaxing or worthwhile...it will have you believe that you will continue to crave forEVER......and if you ALLOW this vein of thinking, it WILL be much harder to quit. Tell yourself that not smoking is a "choice"....you can smoke....you just "choose" not to. With that thought firmly in place, YOU get to take the control away from the addiction. For myself.....being quit over 4 years.....I look back now and realize that it wasn't as hard to get here as I once believed. I have no desire to smoke nowdays. I feel no fear or panic in saying I will never smoke again.......but then, I know I can smoke....I just choose NOT to. Play the mind game with Ole Nic.....it will let you win easier! ;) Katy [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 1/4/2002 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 1574 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 62,993 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $8657 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 205 [B]Hrs:[/B] 10 [B]Mins:[/B] 1 [B]Seconds:[/B] 14
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18 years ago 0 12049 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Harrow, I can see your point :) I do believe that you need the right frame of mind to quit. If you absolutely don't want to, then it won't happen. Positivity is the key and members need to remember that it will not be easy, but we can help. Putting yourself into situations and areas that will tempt you, can only cause disaster. It is important to be ready for these situations if you want to succeed. Keep Strong, Josie _____________________ The SSC Support Team.

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