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A friend came to visit for a week to help me with some home improvement projects. He smokes -- probably a pack-and-a-half a day -- but has been very supportive of my quit since the start. Before he arrived he asked how we were going to handle his smoking and my abstinence. I told him that I thought I would be able to handle it just fine. If he wanted to smoke, I would not tell him not to, but if it did end up bothering me since the house and my existence has essentially been smoke-free for nearly 3 months, we'd work out a solution. Though I told him I was pretty confident in my quit, I did ask him to do one thing: That if I was tempted and tried to smoke, that he wouldn't let me. He said he couldn't/wouldn't do that. At first I was hurt and confused by his refusal. But, in an odd way I found his response empowering. It *was* my quit afterall, and knowing in advance he wasn't going to "save me from myself" put all the responsibility on my shoulders where, of course, it had been all along. Long story short? I made it through the entire eight days, and the several since his departure smoke-free! Did I crave at all? Yep, I'd be lying if I said I didn't. The worse one was the final night after drinks and dinner -- sitting on the screen porch, enjoying the warm summer evening and the pleasant company. I even picked up his pack from the table. I snapped the box lid shut and said "Ooohhhh!, you don't know *how much* I want one of these! But, I'm not going to!" :eg: He just smiled and said, "Nope, I don't think you will. I think you're off them for good, babe. And, that's just brill." Well, that remains to be seen, but if I was going to be tempted, the past 10 days was a real test of my resolve. Did the smell of smoke bother me? Yes, at times. Especially when in close-quarters, like in the car. What did I do about it? Just opened the sunroof or cracked the window a little more. What was hilarious, is who was really bothered by the smoke -- the older of my two cats. Actually, he hated it so much when I smoked that the second he heard me flick the lighter he would get up and leave the room! He did the same when my houseguest was here. What was funny was as a result my friend started being mindful of not l
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Thanks RiverdaleMan, Kat and Danielle. Glad my post was of some value. Your comments brightened my day -- a "good thing" since I seem to have come down with my first cold since quitting, and I am a bit under the weather today. :( Livadia [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 6/18/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 84 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,689 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $420 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 9 [B]Hrs:[/B] 20 [B]Mins:[/B] 37 [B]Seconds:[/B] 50
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Livadia, Congratulations! You passed this test with flying colors and we are proud! We hope you'll reward yourself for handling this situation so well! Thank you for sharing your story as many quitters struggle with this issue. Keep up the great progress! Danielle ____________________________ The SSC Support Team
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livida, thank you for this post, really made me feel better about my day. today I was just angry with the desire to smoke! it's weird but i knew I couldn't have one and it just p*ssed me off. I just came in the door from work and read your post, thanks. seeint the big test that you aced really makes me feel better. kat [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 8/18/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 23 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 460 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $115 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 1 [B]Hrs:[/B] 12 [B]Mins:[/B] 32 [B]Seconds:[/B] 24
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Lividia Great post [b][quote] The best thing about getting through such "tests" in my opinion is how good it makes you feel. Though I realize the danger of becoming over-confident, there's nothing better than the feeling that you literally walked through the fire and came out the other side without getting burned! Hooray [/quote][/b] Loved Loved Loved this! :) Congratulations on your 83 days. Phillip [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 2/17/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 204 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 4,099 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1530 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 33 [B]Hrs:[/B] 9 [B]Mins:[/B] 41 [B]Seconds:[/B] 22

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