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20 years ago 0 415 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hey Ryan...Stay quit...there is no woman worth risking your health for...and if she is only interested in you because you smoke then that is a bit superficial. Attempt to get to know her and let her know the you that doesn't smoke...if she is not interested...as hard as it may be, don't take it personal...I'm sure you look just fine...don't let anybody make changes to you but you!!! You must first and foremost be who you are and if somebody doesn't like and accept you for that then they aren't worth your time. Trust me on this...you change for someone and it will be you that is unhappy in the long run trying to live up to someone you never were. You are 22 (almost 23) ;p You are still too young to be worrying about one girl...there are, as it has been said over, and over and over and over, many many fish in the sea...find the one that likes and accepts you for you....she is out there. Good Luck!! Keep posting...it will get better....you need to embrace your quit and keep in mind that you are doing this for your health and to feel better and don't let anyone or anything change your attitude about your quit!! [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 2/12/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 16 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 165 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $60 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 1 [B]Hrs:[/B] 2 [B]Mins:[/B] 39 [B]Seconds:[/B] 27
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20 years ago 0 14 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
This girl that I liked..well someone hinted at me that she smokes. I don't know if it's tobacco or marijuana, but it is kind of upsetting to me either way. She didn't seem like the type that would. I think I even quit smoking initially so I would be more socially acceptable. Dang. Now I'm having junkie thoughts(eats some food).

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20 years ago 0 14 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Bdd is body dismorphic disorder..basically I see things in my appearance that aren't there(or so I am told). Some days I think I look good and some days I think I see myself as disfigured. Quiting smoking has really messed me up with that too. The little voice inside my head has been saying "you looked better as a smoker", and stuff like that. I don't know if she knows I smoked or not actually. I feel like if I started up again I would be more on the same page with her or something. I don't know. The truth is though I do feel better as a non-smoker. The routines are getting kind of tidieous though(I don't know if I spelled that right). It's like I have totally changed now. Instead of smoking, I exercise. Instead of eating junk food and not worrying about gaining weight because I smoke, I eat healthy(try to anyway). I can't smoke with my friends anymore or anything, and it feels really weird. I'm only 22(almost 23) but I was feeling sick from smoking (atleast that's what I think I remember). Now that I feel really good again, it almost feels "safe" to smoke. That's my subconcious mind I guess. I know deep down that smoking was hurting my health already, but I feel so good right now..almost like I could get away with being a smoker again. I could go smoke with this girl, or party with everyone else. All of the non-smokers that I know of ( don't know well personally)..I'm sure they don't understand what this is like. The smokers, don't even care.

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20 years ago 0 14 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
yes, basically I think that if I return she will like me or something. I might even look better as a smoker. I think she was interested in me when I was in fact smoking(even though she didn't know I smoked because I kept it a secret). Maybe I acted differently then. Maybe I looked differently(I have bdd so I always look different, atleast that's the way I see it.)I don't really know how to go about asking her. You see, I am just a weird person..I obsess over things like this. Sometimes I wish I was someone else..so I didn't think like this. It's really annoying.

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20 years ago 0 2462 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Ryan, what are your junkie thoughts? Take them out and examine them. Is that evil addiction telling you that she'll like you if you go back to smoking? What a liar!!! Since someone "hinted" this to you, how about asking her? Maybe it will provide an opportunity to point her in this direction. Rusty :) [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 12/13/2004 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 440 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 12,335 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1540 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 60 [B]Hrs:[/B] 14 [B]Mins:[/B] 30 [B]Seconds:[/B] 27

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20 years ago 0 2462 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Ryan, I don't think you're wierd. Of course, we've never met, but I know that we all go through times of worrying over things too much. I know I do and I frequently have to give myself a good talking to for obsessing over something. By the way, what is bdd? If she didn't know you smoked, then you probably look the same. I would suspect that you smell a LOT better now, though!!! However, I know that I went through a lot of changes when I quit smoking. Although I had some emotional issues, I also have a great sense of pride that I was able to do something I never thought I could do. What's important is how you feel about yourself, not how someone else thinks about you. If you feel proud, if you take care of your body and your mind, if you think positively, and if you take the time to help other people, then other people will admire you and think highly of you. Rusty

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Ryan, you have done so well. Don't fall into the trap of "just one." You know it won't work. It'll just get you back to where you were before, and you would lose everything you have worked so hard for! Maybe there's something else you could find in common with her. Maybe she would be interested in going out to a healthy restaurant or going for a long walk. You never know! Hey, where's your quit meter? Rusty :)

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