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18 years ago 0 3 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hi Elizabeth. Between drinking and smoking ... well you're dober and I'm not, so I have no ground to stand on there EXCEPT ... we both know which has more immediate consequences. Still that's no excuse ... there really is no excuse. I've quit before only to go back to cigs when I got stressed ... 1 cig became one pack became one carton and then I was a smoker again ... kick yourself (soundly) once and then go back to quitting and forgive yourself ... AS LONG AS YOU GO BACK TO QUITTING. Don't be depressed, don't feel like a loser ... just kick yerself once and then move on. YOU are in control, not the cigs ... never forget that or you will be in trouble. best advice I can give. hope it helps.
18 years ago 0 72 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
I cant say it better than the others. Just want to say that you should be proud to recognize the mistake and try again. Good for you. Lesson learned and time to begin again. We are all human. Get lots of straws to chew for tax season! Denisey
18 years ago 0 254 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Mrs Payfer.......Elizabeth...... Hang in there. Sounds strange for me to be encouraging you, when my day today was HELL ON EARTH. You can read my post and what I went thru - it's called "Yesterday was the worst out of 40 days" It'll give you an idea of my pain - maybe you can empathize?? I too am a (sober) alcoholic of 10 years........so I feel your pain there as well. It's funny - in a perverse sort of way - I have been fantasizing lately about when I am 80 or 90 and ready to leave this world, I'll have a glass of Scotch and a smoke to say goodbye. It's cruel what we do to ourselves, isn't it??? The pain our brain puts us thru to get a "fix"? Anyway.......hang tight. Go to bed (if you are in the Eastern Standard Time Zone, that is!) Works for me......and I'm heading there right now. I hope to chat w. you tomorrow and find out you made it thru......... Sheryl [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 12/19/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 42 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 644 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $283.5 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 3 [B]Hrs:[/B] 21 [B]Mins:[/B] 5 [B]Seconds:[/B] 6
18 years ago 0 1079 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Mrs. Payfer, Thanks for doing the test for me. I never was good at tests anyway, too much stress. lol. I do want to add that I am very impressed by your honesy. It would be very easy just to comme here and not say anything about your slip. It proves you are serious about quitting. You also have integrity. I applaud you. [IMG]http://i37.photobucket.com/albums/e58/saggysac/clap.gif[/IMG] [color=Red]redrosie[/color] [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 1/1/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 28 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 695 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $232.4 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 2 [B]Hrs:[/B] 19 [B]Mins:[/B] 44 [B]Seconds:[/B] 23
18 years ago 0 711 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hi Liz (hope you don't mind the abbreviation of your name!) A few weeks ago I was in the same position having been about 2 weeks smoke free. I got in a situation where the desire to smoke again was weakened by too much to drink. I too kidded myself that I could just have a few cigars that night.....you know the rest. If you have taken a drink.......chances are that you would have smoked as well? So whilst I am not glad that you smoked......at least we have a chance of helping you deal with one problem and not two. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off and remember something that helped me... Bad things happen whether we smoke or not.....learn from the experience and get right back to it. Mad Englishman [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 12/8/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 52 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 369 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] �260 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 8 [B]Hrs:[/B] 19 [B]Mins:[/B] 7 [B]Seconds:[/B] 40
18 years ago 0 86 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Elizabeth, Here is something from a post I made in the Coping With Withdrawl Symptoms section called Things to Avoid. Hope this helps :) Don't be negative. It's been said that the average person has approximately 66,000 thoughts in a given day, and two-thirds of them are negative. We can be so hard on ourselves! Don't beat yourself up for things you can't change, such as the years you spent smoking. Don't look at past quit attempts as failures. Learn from the experiences you've had and move on. Think about all of the positive changes you're creating in your life. Successful long-term cessation always starts in the mind. Focus on your purpose and develop an attitude of gratitude. We have a way of believing what we tell ourselves over and over. Don't feed yourself negatives. Affirm the changes you are working to create in your life, and action will follow more easily. Welcome back to your quit!!!! Tony :) [color=navy][size=4]Attitude of Gratitude[/color][/size] [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 1/2/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 27 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 555 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $81 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 4 [B]Hrs:[/B] 12 [B]Mins:[/B] 7 [B]Seconds:[/B] 10
18 years ago 0 61 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Well, I blew it. I had to deal with a very nasty situation and I had a choice of drinking (sober alcoholic 5 years) or smoking - so I smoked. I wish I'd never lit up. This was last weekend and I went all week without a cigarette and then tried to convince myself that I could just smoke on weekends and started in again Saturday morning. This morning I had 4 cigs in and hour and a half. Right back to where I was in my smoking. Just like Vicki says - just one puff away from 2 packs a day. That nicodemon sure is pushy! I wish he would shut up. There is no good excuse for what I did and I regret it. If you are new here - don't kid yourself. You can't smoke normally. None of us can. Don't even try it. I did the test for you! So tomorrow I start on my quit again. I picked a bad time to screw up too because I work for a tax man and tax season is upon me! Stress galore. Oh well, nobody to blame but myself. Yes I am depressed and feel like a big loser. I do believe I've learned something from this.....that I will always be an addict. I guess I need to find another way to deal with stress, huh? Any words of encouragement would be appreciated. Thank you all for being here for me. Elizabeth :( [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 1/30/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 0 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 0 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $0 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 0 [B]Hrs:[/B] 0 [B]Mins:[/B] 0 [B]Seconds:[/B] 0
18 years ago 0 61 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Thanks you guys.........you rock! I REALLY appreciate your kind words. Today was not as bad as I dreamed it would be. But - tonight is just as bad as I knew it would be! I really want to smoke. For some reason I only really want to smoke when I'm at home. Not sure why. DUH!!!!! It just doesn't make any sense. I'm sitting here typing with tears streaming down my face for some stupid cancer stick that is going to kill me! I never should've picked up that first cig.......I should've just dealt with the stress, because this is the pits! I HATE IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm taking a sleeping pill and going to bed. This too shall pass?????????????? Elizabeth [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 1/30/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 0 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 0 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $0 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 0 [B]Hrs:[/B] 0 [B]Mins:[/B] 0 [B]Seconds:[/B] 0
18 years ago 0 5195 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Mrs. Payfer.... Well...now you know. Don't beat yourself up too much. Learn from this and get right back on your quit. How we quit really doesn't matter. The fact that we succeed in quitting is what is important. Remember N.O.P.E. at all times. It would be so easy to light up at any given moment but it won't change anything or help anything. Chin up, best foot forward....here we go......:) [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 7/1/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 212 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 4,255 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $742 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 18 [B]Hrs:[/B] 18 [B]Mins:[/B] 2 [B]Seconds:[/B] 36
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Mrs. Payfer, You have no idea how many people get to where you are and then give up completely and never try to quit again or don't try for several months or even years. You are getting right back to your quit, and that's commendable! So, you screwed up. The important thing is that you learned a lesson that will hopefully help you in the future to not make that same mistake. I know from personal experience that slipping/relapsing gives you clarity and you learn a lot more about yourself when you do. So now, you've learned a very valuable lesson and are ready to try again! Congratulations for that! Welcome back Mrs. Payfer... we've missed you! Crave the Quit! Butterfly [IMG]http://i27.photobucket.com/albums/c177/kissnflirt/littlebutterfly.gif[/IMG] [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 10/28/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 93 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 2,348 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $306.9 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 6 [B]Hrs:[/B] 19 [B]Mins:[/B] 38 [B]Seconds:[/B] 24

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