Hi, I'm tryin and doinit4mygirls.
Alcohol is probably the greatest bane to a quit of anything else I've seen here. It doesn't take much to start lowering your inhibitions and allowing the junkie that much more freedom in your head. The more you drink, the more strength you transfer from you to the junkie.
Many of us have given up more than expected in order to maintain our quits. But most of these sacrifices are only temporary, lasting only as long as necessary to get the quit strong and stable.
It's a matter of priorities. At the time it's hard to accept we have to lose so much more than anticipated. Many become bitter and angry over their loss(es) and this coupled with the stress and mood swings normal to quitting overwhelm them and they go back to smoking. That's a really sad outcome because if they'd just waited it out they'd have ended up with it all, the quit and the other things back.
Personally, I've given up many snacks, Pepsi at lunch and supper, time in the afternoons I now spend at the gym, and escapes from annoyances at work, to name a few. But compared to what I've gained, those are nothing. And I expect that in time my metabolism will recover and I'll be able to resume some of those snacks and Pepsi, although I may not want them by then.
So just hang in there. Without quit meters I'm not sure where you are in your quits, but I think you're both just a few weeks into it. It does get better as you learn different life methods and eventually you will be able to safely resume the nights out.
Shevie
[B]My Milage:[/B]
[B]My Quit Date: [/B] 5/23/2005
[B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 264
[B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 5,282
[B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1003.2
[B]Life Gained:[/B]
[B]Days:[/B] 49 [B]Hrs:[/B] 5 [B]Mins:[/B] 35 [B]Seconds:[/B] 38
